LostOne1 Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 So I've been on a Bu with my ex for just over a year now. I was with her for almost 3 years till she BU with me. I later thought it was because she was with someone else. Well... finally after 1 year the truth is out. She DID in fact leave me for another guy and the guy I thought it was too. So I was bored and noticed her FB page today. And I know she "purposely" posted her her engagements images public, as she normally never posts images publicly on Facebook. But the odd part is.. I don't feel bad at all? In fact I feel HAPPY for HER. I guess I've reached in difference in 1 year now? I thought I'd be mad, hurt or sad. But I kinda feel relived in some ways? I'm guess 1 because now I totally know the truth of why the BU happened. eg. I get closure to know she cheated on me to be with another guy. 2 - that she found someone that "seems" to fit her style and eventually I will find my girl that fits my style. However, there is 1 thing that mentally confuses me? How does one person go from going out with someone for 3 years and not get engaged. And then go from meeting a new guy and in less than a year getting engaged to them? Personally even after 1 year BU of time. If I met a girl that was amazing I still would feel uneasy getting engaged or married. Maybe I just like to really get to know my lady before I go down that route. But this just shows others out there that are dying and suffering inside. I mean look at what I went through... with a girl for 3 yrs, got cheated on, never was told the truth, got lead on by her, never won her back and eventually found out she is now engaged to the guy she left me for.... Now if I can go through ALL that and still be alive, happy and grow as a person. THEN YOU! TOO can make it like I did and this shows that you will MAKE it. You'll get to a point as where I am at, where I can see another guy with my ex and just be happy for them. I don't like the fact I was cheated on, but I see it as a blessing in disguise. It just means the right girl is STILL out there waiting for me. You'll be just like be able to stare at pics of your ex with someone else and be happy for them. And with that know your life still goes on to a new fun adventure. In fact so many good things have happened since my BU, that I've really GROWN as a person. I've made myself a lot stronger mentally and physically and never been so proud of myself of working this hard So those suffering you WILL make it I promise you BTW. If you want to read my history you can view the following threads of my BU a year ago. You can read my threads here ---> https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/347888-nc-sister-fb-delete and here -->> https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/340675-3-yr-break-up 3
hurts2death Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 nice for you if you feel happy... i put my hand in the fire that she will break up with him too.... sounds like your ex is selfish.... prepare to be sad(or happy?) when they break up lolz -john 1
Author LostOne1 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 (edited) nice for you if you feel happy... i put my hand in the fire that she will break up with him too.... sounds like your ex is selfish.... prepare to be sad(or happy?) when they break up lolz -john Well if they break up I won't be sad or happy.. to be honest I wouldn't care. I mean it's their life and they can worry about it. I guess by happy I meant I was relived. And, I'm VERY content with myself. I think with her I was a bit insecure and now I am a much more confident guy. You know one thing I realized that I look back at. I actually like NOT being in a relationship with her anymore. I think secretly I was tired of taking her **** but I kept taking it thinking this is how it is... and now in 1 year without her. I feel so relived actually, because I don't have my phone being blown every 5 mins with texts and calls and demands. Is my ex selfish? some what she was... and who knows maybe she still is... I guess I was more shocked she would engage/marry someone so fast. I mean most people after a BU want to take time out. But in a way it wasn't a Break up for her. She had replaced me with someone else and I was on the sideline. She always told me she wanted to take her time... then again she was always paranoid about her getting past 30 and not being able to become pregnant easily hahaha. Either way... I guess the story of why my ex left me is closed now. I've been way busy with school as of late anyway and my own family and friends. I guess I'm finally living myself without someone ordering me around for a change. I get to be the one in control! Edited September 27, 2013 by LostOne1
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