alexjames Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I have been in a relationship with this girl for a fairly short amount of time (under a month). she is 18 and I'm 21. The other day we were texting and got talking about us. She said that she really likes me and hope we are together for a very, very long time etc, but doesn't want to take things too ''seriously'' at the moment. What does this actually mean though? It's quite tough in our relationship as I only get to see her a couple of times a week (she has extremely protective parents and we both work at different, awkward times). She has said she only likes to see BF 2/3 times a week which is fine, and we are taking it really slowly (not allowed to stay round each others for months as yet and we have said no sexual stuff till she is ready, even if it took a year, as I don't want to rush her into it etc). We only see each other a couple of times a week for an hour or so, can this work?! Please don't suggest leaving her as I have really fallen for her and like her more than any other girl I've ever met. She is gorgeous, funny, kind and just makes me smile. But I'm confused when she say to not take it seriously etc, is this a bad thing?!
Philosoraptor Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 It can work as long as you two are on the same page with this. She has set her boundaries and you need to set yours, and decide if you two can be happy with this setup. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as you are truly happy with the setup.
TB Rhine Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Bury it with a shovel, then bury the shovel. This girl will string you along for a year, waiting to have sex with her, then get pregnant by some dude she just met. Her "strict" parents are probably Christian, and have pounded "no sex before marriage" into her head all her life, and she's with you because you're a "safe" guy who's not going to pressure her, and she's not attracted enough to you (though she may not consciously realize this) for temptation to be an issue at her end. Eventually that tension is going to boil over, and she's going to sate it with the cute male coworker she's probably already mentioned to you, albeit in a seemingly innocuous way. They won't use protection - since that would require common sense - and tada! Bun in the oven.
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