Emma1234 Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Realising that I have a ridiculous amount of posts on this forum so thank you everyone for putting up with them all! I just had a strange realisation. We are ALL going to be fine. We're all going to get through this. And the reason for this is time. No matter how much it hurts it will fade and become indifference one day. I think that day is different for everyone but it does exist because of time. (Time and no contact). May not feel like it now but after 5 months and my emotions towards this break up changing drastically I've realised that we all are truly going to be fine. One day. We just need to do everything we can to get there. Stay strong everyone.
Chris715 Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I wish I could know all of that for a fact, but sometimes it sure doesn't feel like it. And I wish I knew for a fact that I would have a special girl in my life again, someone who would make me feel love again and care about me, because I sure haven't found her yet. If I could take those things as facts then I think I would be doing a lot better in the present and dealing with all the emotional turmoil would be easy. Honestly the uncertainty of my future is one of the worst things that's killing me right now and has been this past year. I've been making baby steps in recovery I guess. Cutting complete contact from my ex, accepting that she's really gone and never coming back. But those things don't guarantee I'll feel better eventually, and don't guarantee I'll find someone else. Again, the uncertainty is the killer.
Author Emma1234 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 Maybe I'm finally feeling this way because of the no contact but our minds do know how to heal themselves. Of course we'll all be fine! I can guarantee that. It's the way life works. New experiences, new people, personal growth and change all occur in our lives. It may be years until we finally feel FINE about not being with the person but it will happen. It sucks that it may take years but that's why we have to do things during this time. We may not enjoy the things we're doing like taking a trip or something but one day when we look back we may be able to fully appreciate what we did without the dark shadow of our ex. Right now it may feel like we will never recover from this, I have moments where I miss the old times so much i want to build a time machine but that's not the way life works. We have to strive and WANT to make new memories that we wish we could re live. It doesn't have to be with another lover, if can be memories by ourself or with friends. There is so much life and love out there, we just need to forgive, let go and accept. It is easier said that done, trust me I know that, but we'll get through this. Time is a magic medicine. We can't go back but we can go forward. 2
supaflyz Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Yes we will all be fine. In is tough in the beginning but after awhile it all gets better. Right now I don't have anyone around and really lonely but I no longer have the urge to contact her. I know if I would have felt this way in the beginning I would just pick up the phone and call or text her. I'm just on here now to give advice and try to help people.
JDPT Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 After roughly 4 months of being I recall the first two being utterly paralizeing. I combination of so many emotions were literally eating me alive. There were certain times when I felt as if I was half alive and half dead and perhaps at times at still do. However. If I compare today to then I feel that I've made substantial progress. I still have my ups and downs but things have become just a bit more stable for me. I am now working, back in school and keeping myself so busy with an assortment of constructive and positive activities. I am learning to prioritize and do things for ME and stopped living through someone else, this is my time and no one else's. 1
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