emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 (edited) Ok....so I feel like most people know what type of guy/girl they like (hair color, eye color, skin color, body type, general look, way they dress, lifestyle, career they have, etc). I sometimes feel that people who have a "type" have better chances of finding someone because they know what they're looking for. I don't....I feel that when the right guy comes, he will come and I have no idea what he will look like. I don't know what I like. I guess I like guys with dark hair but that's about it (but i've liked guys that are blonde too, love redheads and have liked bald guys too)....I just know that I want him to be romantic, faithful and kind. But then again does anyone really have a type? I notice that a lot of time let's say a guy that says his type of woman is blonde and petite ends up falling madly in love with a not so petite brunette. So if anything this brunette ends up feeling like crap because she's not his "type" but in reality he doesn't like her any less than his "type" of girl. Edited September 27, 2013 by emva07 1
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I don't know what I like. I guess I like guys with dark hair but that's about it (but i've liked guys that are blonde too, love redheads and have liked bald guys too)....I just know that I want him to be romantic, faithful and kind. If you are smart, you will go for a skydiver. 1
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Well, physically you should not have expectations because you are bound to overlook someone if they miss one of the boxes on your check list. You should most definitely have an idea of what you want personality wise though, and work from there. What kind of lifestyle you want them to have, what kind of values they have, what they find important, personality traits, etc. It should be about who meets those qualities and also is attractive physically in your eyes. The last 4 women I went after (in no particular order) were: black, chinese, puerto rican like myself, irish. Obviously they are all physically very different but what they all have in common is their personalities were similar.
Author emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 You should most definitely have an idea of what you want personality wise though, and work from there. What kind of lifestyle you want them to have, what kind of values they have, what they find important, personality traits, etc. I know what I want in a partner regarding these things. But I feel a lot of people know what they want their partner to look like....say you ask women what celebrity they find hot they'll have an immediate answer....I don't even have an answer to that). Don't get me wrong, I recognize a cute guy when I see one, but all that doesn't matter to me until I talk to them, that's when I decide if they are really cute or not. 1
Author emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 (edited) I guess the upside of this is that I won't go through the "being with a douche because he's hot" syndrome a lot of girls go through? ....even then I found myself with a douche for 3 years -.- BUT I learned a lot from that and know what not to do the next time around (it was my first relationship). Edited September 27, 2013 by emva07 1
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I know what I want in a partner regarding these things. But I feel a lot of people know what they want their partner to look like....say you ask women what celebrity they find hot they'll have an immediate answer....I don't even have an answer to that).[/Quote] Well my taste physically changes depending on the day. I find it a bit silly when I look at a girl's dating history and she dated the same guy physically (and even sometimes personality wise) her whole life. Seems dull. There is so much out there. At least to me. I find beauty in all physical types and hair colors and ethnicities and everything. Don't get me wrong, I recognize a cute guy when I see one, but all that doesn't matter to me until I talk to them, that's when I decide if they are really cute or not. That's really the best way to do it. I mean if you're looking for something meaningful.
Author emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 If you are smart, you will go for a skydiver. WELL I DID see in another thread that you love Hispanic girls I'm very "white" though. I think that's part of my problem....to Hispanic for Americans, too American for the Hispanics. 1
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 WELL I DID see in another thread that you love Hispanic girls I'm very "white" though. I think that's part of my problem....to Hispanic for Americans, too American for the Hispanics. I had this issue in high school as I can't speak spanish to save my life, my folks and I were born and raised here in NY so that cultural aspect of being Puerto Rican never resonated with me. I couldn't identify with it. I can't relate to that culture because I grew up Americanized because my parents were Americanized being born and raised here themselves. But obviously many people don't understand that. So the hispanic kids in high school would get on my case about not knowing spanish and not liking spanish food etc, and would call me white boy or make jokes about how I was white washed, and the white people would make jokes about me being hispanic. In college, I have met tons of hispanic women like myself, only now the problem is many of them date white guys because they believe the stereotypes of their own race and think that hispanic guys are thugs or ghetto etc etc.
Author emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 I had this issue in high school as I can't speak spanish to save my life, my folks and I were born and raised here in NY so that cultural aspect of being Puerto Rican never resonated with me. I couldn't identify with it. I can't relate to that culture because I grew up Americanized because my parents were Americanized being born and raised here themselves. But obviously many people don't understand that. So the hispanic kids in high school would get on my case about not knowing spanish and not liking spanish food etc, and would call me white boy or make jokes about how I was white washed, and the white people would make jokes about me being hispanic. In college, I have met tons of hispanic women like myself, only now the problem is many of them date white guys because they believe the stereotypes of their own race and think that hispanic guys are thugs or ghetto etc etc. That's exactly my situation (well I speak Spanish, like the food, and dance salsa, merengue bachata and all that) but other than that....American. Yes, I feel you on the college thing as well....you know very well what the female stereotypes are haha. For the record, my ex was Hispanic and I gave him the benefit of the doubt that he wasn't the stereotype....a couple years into it, yep....totally was. Cheater and dominant and his rational? "why can't you be like a good hispanic woman and just accept that's how this culture is?"
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 That's exactly my situation (well I speak Spanish, like the food, and dance salsa, merengue bachata and all that) but other than that....American. Yes, I feel you on the college thing as well....you know very well what the female stereotypes are haha. For the record, my ex was Hispanic and I gave him the benefit of the doubt that he wasn't the stereotype....a couple years into it, yep....totally was. Cheater and dominant and his rational? "why can't you be like a good hispanic woman and just accept that's how this culture is?" That's unfortunate. Yeah sadly there are walking stereotypes of every race. Still though, when it comes time to place blame, I place more blame on the people making the judgements (i.e. in this case, hispanics not dating their own for believing stereotypes) than I do on the people living out the stereotype. They should know better. It's common sense. "Well I'm hispanic, and I'm none of the stereotypes they say we are, so certainly there are men out there who are the same." If you know you exist, than so too, do others like you exist. 1
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 WELL I DID see in another thread that you love Hispanic girls I'm very "white" though. So? That doesn't mean I don't like girls of any other race. I was just stating a preference. I find Hispanic girls very attractive. I think that's part of my problem....to Hispanic for Americans, too American for the Hispanics. Naw. that's a cop out. If I find a girl attractive I don't care about race. So would any other dude. Race doesn't mean much anymore. 2
Author emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 That's unfortunate. Yeah sadly there are walking stereotypes of every race. Still though, when it comes time to place blame, I place more blame on the people making the judgements (i.e. in this case, hispanics not dating their own for believing stereotypes) than I do on the people living out the stereotype. They should know better. It's common sense. "Well I'm hispanic, and I'm none of the stereotypes they say we are, so certainly there are men out there who are the same." If you know you exist, than so too, do others like you exist. Totally agree. I just got a bad apple. 1
Author emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 So? That doesn't mean I don't like girls of any other race. I was just stating a preference. I find Hispanic girls very attractive. Naw. that's a cop out. If I find a girl attractive I don't care about race. So would any other dude. Race doesn't mean much anymore. I'm glad to hear that from someone.
Author emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 Well mr. castle and skydiver.... Seems like a trip to DC is in order :laugh: 1
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I'm glad to hear that from someone. To be honest, I think most of us guys feel that way. Beautiful girls are not contingent on race. I mean, how could you call J Lo, unattractive? Or Janet Jackson? Or the most beautiful girl on the planet Eva Mendes?
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Well mr. castle and skydiver.... Seems like a trip to DC is in order :laugh: Naw. You come out to Colorado and I'll tandem jump you. Free of charge. I mean it. No bigger rush than that
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 To be honest, I think most of us guys feel that way. Beautiful girls are not contingent on race. I mean, how could you call J Lo, unattractive? Or Janet Jackson? Or the most beautiful girl on the planet Eva Mendes? It does seem like men are more appreciative of different types of women (physically). We are more visual so it makes sense. They are like pokemon. Gotta catch em all. Catching the same one over and over would be a pointless existence in my estimation By the way Alba>>>all 1
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 It does seem like men are more appreciative of different types of women (physically). We are more visual so it makes sense. They are like pokemon. Gotta catch em all. Catching the same one over and over would be a pointless existence in my estimation By the way Alba>>>all Yea, but Eva? No girl more beautiful than her.
Author emva07 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 Yea, but Eva? No girl more beautiful than her. Meh. I don't see the hype honestly. I think with her it's her overt sex appeal. I'm more of an Eva Langoria fan.
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Meh. I don't see the hype honestly. I think with her it's her overt sex appeal. I'm more of an Eva Langoria fan. Well, I find that tough to argue for sure. But there's just something about Eva Mendes. More of a natural beauty and elegance. Hard to explain.
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Well, I find that tough to argue for sure. But there's just something about Eva Mendes. More of a natural beauty and elegance. Hard to explain. I don't know. My tastes are funny. Although body wise it's well documented I'm an ass man and foam at the mouth at any Kim Kardashian Nicki Minaj type that comes my way, my list of favorite celebs have no curves to speak of for the most part. Jessica Alba, Scarlett Johansson, Zooey Deschanel, Mila Kunis, Hayden Panettiere, Kristen Stewart (something about her does it for me) It's all about the face for me
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I don't know. My tastes are funny. Although body wise it's well documented I'm an ass man and foam at the mouth at any Kim Kardashian Nicki Minaj type that comes my way, my list of favorite celebs have no curves to speak of for the most part. Jessica Alba, Scarlett Johansson, Zooey Deschanel, Mila Kunis, Hayden Panettiere, Kristen Stewart (something about her does it for me) It's all about the face for me Well said. It's just difficult for me to explain. I just find certain girls wildly attractive. 1
todreaminblue Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 i dotn think love has a color guide a skin color preference a heaght or dick size requirement..... who you fall for and who you love....is often not the type you expect to fall for....there will eb soemthign common to you even if they are opposite that is the common thing that will happen........ love does not come on command when you fill in all the boxes with ticks....love cannot be called to be there like a dog...........it happens.....true love is never ordinary and straightforward it is always....extraordinary...gods gift to us.....mystery and faith that you will find the one you love...there are more than justy the one by the way...in all shapes and colors......love wasnt mean to be predictable or everyone would have love today wouldnt they....... love is never easy .....and is always unexpected
skydiveaddict Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 love is never easy .....and is always unexpected True. But for some of us it has come and gone and will never happen again.
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 True. But for some of us it has come and gone and will never happen again. You never know. I have felt the same way until recently 1
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