Myonenonly Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 My exhusband and I were married for 6 years and all toghther 9and halfs! I got pregnant in 2010 with our first child! I was only 12 weeks along in my pregnancy and I found he was seeing another girl! ... I was dEvasting I left him and move in at my parents he change his phone number and didn wan to speak wih me or anything he was very mean!One day he even through rocks at me so I would leave and threaten to call police if didn't leave! I spend the next 7 mothns of my pregnancy crying and I felt so vulnerable unwanted, sad and just terrible! Later he moved her in our house must have been within of me leaving! It was terrible I guess that's why he kicked me out that day I went to see him!! 3 years after I'm doing good! However he wasnt being Inconsisten in helping with our daughter! So I fIled for child support with out local county about a month ago he was very mad but before filing I wanted to talk to him about it but he declined saying do what you gotta do! So our divorced papers had not been filed.. So h filed for divorces two days ago I was served! Im happy that finally the paperwork is filed! I didn't do it before because it's pricey I don't reply want to deal with that! However as I'm reading the paperwork he claims his unemployed( fact: he's not) .. He claims I make more money tht what I make! He's requesting me paying for attorneys fees.. And want me to pay him spousal support and request to have our daughter half the time! I don't think any of this is fair! Im crying So bad as I'm writing this! Like really why is he acting this way? Why is he making it hard for me to get child support money not only that but he wants me to support him?! I feel so alone! I have some money saved up for my training and I'm afraid I might have to lose that money and have to give it to him? What are you guys thoughts?
tojaz Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 They don't take you at your word when doing the business of divorce. You need an attorney, and they will look into his true assets and income as well as yours and present that, his fabricated numbers won't stand up for very long, so things should play out fair money wise. Custody can be a lot more complicated, but I have very little experience with that, but I'm sure someone else will chime in as that is a very common topic here. TOJAZ
trippi1432 Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 OP - I answered on your other thread, but basically same advice as above.....you need an attorney. As for custody, most states are 50/50 on the children unless one parent is proven unfit. You should not have to give him any of that money you have set aside for training unless a court orders it, you really need to see an attorney with the papers you were served with. It would be in both yours and your daughter's best interest. Good luck.
harrybrown Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Go see an attorney as soon as possible. Maybe he will end up paying for your attorney fees.
Author Myonenonly Posted October 3, 2013 Author Posted October 3, 2013 Thank you guys for your answer.. I really appreciated! I did not contact a lawyer and I filed the response myself. A family member served the paper to him at his workplace. I found it incredibly disrepectful that his father grab the papers and begin to look through the after my soon to be exhusband placed the on the table. I had a feeling my exfather in law was behind all this which assured my suspicions he never liked me. When we were married, many times my exhusband will get on their side For example one time I did said something to my sister in law that was supposed to be a secret (I didn't know) between the dad and my exhusband.then my sis in law mention it to her dad and my Exhus. Yelled at me in front of his dad. I cried I said I didn't know I'm sorry! He didn't care! Things like that you know! Yesterday I received the summons and complaint order from the child support services, CSS send that form because the non custodial party didn't show up at his appointment to present financial documents.. They're asking for a proposed amount which is about 0.079% of his income I reported he earned. I couldn't prove child care payment because a family member who lives with me watches my son while I work and go to school i paid cash and I paid all utilities food rent. i think im screwed! I always end up getting screwed at the end! Now since he already claimed to be unemployed in the divorce papers he has to claimed unemployed with the child Support offices.. So I'm gonna end up with 0% of his income And he will be granted visitation rights.. He's and unfit father but i cant prove it he drinks to much and he actually confessed to me he did cocaine for since he was 18 years old, hes a compulsive lier so idk if its true hahaha this situation is starting to sound like a joke to me! What do you guys think?
littlejaz Posted October 3, 2013 Posted October 3, 2013 You will ensure that you get screwed if you do not get an attorney.
Misadventure Posted October 4, 2013 Posted October 4, 2013 Oneandonly, you should have stayed in your house.. and he should have had to pay for it... because you are pregnant.. it could have happened. You can still fight to live in the house for the next 18 yrs...you need an attorney to go and see your rights. It hurts. It sucks. You need to put the tissues down and go see a lawyer and take him for what you can get and look after YOU and your child. By not getting an attorney you let him win, while you cry... You can cry for years after this... FIGHT NOW- CRY LATER.
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