Teknoe Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I've heard about this, and am wondering what level of validity it truly carries, although I'm sure it varies case by case basis. Basically the theory is, if a girl is unsure how she feels about you, or finds you intriguing as a possible option, that if you call her just a friend or "let's just be friends" (LJBF), that somehow the girl enters "No, let's be more!" mode. What is your take on this? With my current crush, I encouraged her and at the end wrote "I've enjoyed getting to know you as a friend, and not just as a colleague." Since that encouraging note, I've noticed her hanging around me more, and generally just being extra friendly. Did it put her at ease that I'm just a friend, or is she putting herself in closer proximity as to get my attention that she should be more than just a friend? Oh, how this can drive one crazy thinking about. lol. Opinions?
Carenth Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Generally when you tell someone you are their friend, they think of you as a friend. This is a shock revelation I know! To answer your question this is mostly nonsense and a wussy way to deceive someone you are interested in to spend more time with you as a "fake friend". When you actually have a hidden agenda that revolves around anything but friendship. If you want to date her ask her out, none of the passive beating around the bush crap. Hoping she will just fall madly in love with you after she sees what a great friend you are. 2
MrCastle Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I have not tried the LJBF thing as I have no will power to play that kind of hand. If I'm horny and attracted she will know right away. I don't play games. But I have had situations where the girl gave me the LJBF line and I kind of played it off and later on they came around.
Sanman Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I use the LNJB theory. That's right, lets not be friends. I let a woman know I am interested in her romantically and as just a friend... I have many friends. If she does not want to be my friend, she does not get my attention and any special treatment. If she asks why, I tell her that treatment is reserved for my gf. It works just fine for me.
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