the tank Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 First time I use online dating website . I will meet a girl in one week. I am busy, she is busy.Should I text her everyday or one/two time will be good ?
phineas Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 (edited) Good luck in her actually showing. I've only had a few woman from OLD actually meet me when we planned something that far in advance. They usually flake because they are getting hit up daily by multiple men & decide they have found someone better. If there is chemistry & she's genuinely into you and the texting flows she will probably show up. but if it takes her hrs to respond and the responses are very blah then she was most likely bored and agree'd on whim knowing full well if something better comes along she will leave you in the dust. Edited September 26, 2013 by phineas
NoMoreJerks Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 That's not true. I've always met the men I have responded to if they asked me out. I don't respond to men I am not interested in, in the first place. The only exception to this, was a guy who asked me to dinner (it felt a bit too fast, since we had never even met), and he asked me to meet up with him in front of some statue, and then decide on a place to go eat. It was odd, and so I just didn't get back to him about it. He then mssged me, asking me what had happened. I told him the truth, and then he told me he's out of the country til November for a contract job (he had wanted to see me before leaving and he never told me he was leaving til November!). I am glad I avoided that disaster. Why is he even looking for a partner when he's currently out of the country? Anyway, he seemed pretty odd, and then acted like a douche even though *I* was supposed to feel offended and disrespected by his lies/half-truths. So bottom line: I've never flaked on a guy who's asked me out on OLD, unless I've found his behavior very odd. 2
Author the tank Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 (edited) I'm pretty sure she will show up .plus she is doing her medical internship. I just feel ackward to text a girl I've never meet. Edited September 26, 2013 by the tank
NoMoreJerks Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 I'm pretty sure she will show up .plus she is doing her medical internship. I just feel ackward to text a girl I've never meet. You're overthinking it, buddy. If you haven't met at all, I'd just text once or twice, not every day. Just a simple hi, hope your day is going well, and looking forward to seeing you next week. Then just stop texting unless she starts any sort of conversation via text. If she just says "me too", no need to reply. Don't overdo it. Remember, first meeting is to assess someone's personality/behavior/general compatibility, and you don't really know each other, so don't overdo it with comments via text. After the first meet-up, it gets easier.
Author the tank Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 You're overthinking it, buddy. If you haven't met at all, I'd just text once or twice, not every day. Just a simple hi, hope your day is going well, and looking forward to seeing you next week. Then just stop texting unless she starts any sort of conversation via text. If she just says "me too", no need to reply. Don't overdo it. Remember, first meeting is to assess someone's personality/behavior/general compatibility, and you don't really know each other, so don't overdo it with comments via text. After the first meet-up, it gets easier. Thanks a lot. I didnt date since a long term and that's the first girl I will meet since my bu. Anyway I will follow you advice !
soccerrprp Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Good luck in her actually showing. I've only had a few woman from OLD actually meet me when we planned something that far in advance. Phineas, Do you communicate with the new interest daily, often? I've been told by a few ladies that my continued interest and persistence is what kept them interested in me and to meet. Anyway, OP, I would suggest that you continue to show interest. However you do that is up to you, but if texting, don't over do it. Text, wait for reply, text....Being silent until the day approaches also has its risks. It may show disinterest. Good luck!
NoMoreJerks Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 For online dating, I usually keep mssging them back and forth up until a day before our agreed meet-up... the guys I am interested in do respond to my messages and initiate messages as well. But it's usually not texts, since I don't usually give out my phone number to people I haven't yet met. The only exception is a guy who asked me out, but was a bit weird about it, wanted us to meet at some statue, then decide on a place to go have dinner, so I didn't reply to his email. Then, when he emailed me, I told him why I had bailed, and gave him my phone number so he can communicate better and faster, and decide on a place for a date. He kinda was a douche to me though, and told me thanks for the number, I am out of the country now, til November. Maybe if we're still interested in each other, we can arrange something when I get back. He never used the number I gave him, never texted me. Guess what happened to that "interest" of mine in him?
Author the tank Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 I think phineas was right. We text a bit since, but yesterday I text her ... no answer since ... I will call her wednesday for a last try.. in other case i will go for the next one. Anyway I think i should spend few more time alone. I just go out of almost two back to back relationship . And my last one hurt me a lot.
mammasita Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 Just do what feels natural.......if it feels off or awkward, then it probably is.
FemmeMystere Posted October 1, 2013 Posted October 1, 2013 I don't recommend doing a lot of texting before the date. It's easy to come across the wrong way. In OLD, many people will write you off over the most petty and insignificant things, especially when they haven't met you in person. Nature of the beast, because there's the perception of having endless alternative options right at your fingertips. Shoot her a text to confirm the date if you'd like, but try to save the questions and conversation for when you meet up.
Author the tank Posted October 1, 2013 Author Posted October 1, 2013 she met someone at a party last weekend. seem a good girl. too bad !
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