may_girl Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Should I be surprised? We have been NC for over 130 days and I didn't receive a thing from him on my birthday. I wasn't expecting to... But then in a way, it feels like I have been forgotten. I know I have come a long way and this shouldn't bother me but it does a little... Sigh.
Author may_girl Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 I am the dumpee. We were together a long time and I spent many previous birthdays with him
hurts2death Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 so no point..i would suggest keep nc and live your life i know its tough i get through sth similar.... -john
theonlyjuan Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 You're not forgotten unless he just suffered a major head injury. You just need to accept in your mind that he has moved on even if he hasn't, and you need to try to move on. One day you won't even care if you get a bday message from him.
Brown-Eyez Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Consider yourself lucky I got the bday message from him and its sent my life spinning (again!) ..his message gave me hope and then he ignored my replies, so rejected all over again! truly no contact from someone who has left you (& doesn't want to be with you anymore) is SO MUCH BETTER! he was selfish to contact me even if it was my bday i think your ex is actually being kinder in staying away.. so try to look at it that way
lindsay1990 Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Happy Birthday, first of all. And congratulations on giving yourself the gift of dignity by staying NC, you are strong. And also, "congrats" on the gift he gave YOU: not expecting anything of him anymore. You are on the right track. Trust me, breadcrumbs are faaaar more humiliating because it is akin to them just telling you again how they don't want to be with you.
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 You're not forgotten unless he just suffered a major head injury. You just need to accept in your mind that he has moved on even if he hasn't, and you need to try to move on. One day you won't even care if you get a bday message from him. I agree with this. My B-Day is in 3 weeks, and I am 99.999% sure I won't here a peep from her. But I KNOW I will at least be thought of. There is no way she won't at least have a little memory of me/us in her brain on that day. No matter what else or who else she is doing at that moment. I take something from that and you should too. And, as others have stated, a crappy little breadcrumb would be worse anyway. Have a great day for yourself and enjoy it the best you can 1
hurts2death Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 very good that yoy say with the thought I agree with this. My B-Day is in 3 weeks, and I am 99.999% sure I won't here a peep from her. But I KNOW I will at least be thought of. There is no way she won't at least have a little memory of me/us in her brain on that day. No matter what else or who else she is doing at that moment. I take something from that and you should too. And, as others have stated, a crappy little breadcrumb would be worse anyway. Have a great day for yourself and enjoy it the best you can
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