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I am surrounded by pregnancies, babies and bumps. I am sick of the sight of them. Walking around a store and seeing the beautiful little romper suits. Hurts my heart so much sometimes that I can't breathe. I'm forever mourning the life of our son and he does not care. Every time I think about it I cry until I'm sick.

 

I really don't know what to do, I thought I was coping well but apparently not..

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I am surrounded by pregnancies, babies and bumps. I am sick of the sight of them. Walking around a store and seeing the beautiful little romper suits. Hurts my heart so much sometimes that I can't breathe. I'm forever mourning the life of our son and he does not care. Every time I think about it I cry until I'm sick.

 

I really don't know what to do, I thought I was coping well but apparently not..

 

 

I have cried for you, really, plan a new chapter in your life, make tomorrow different for your sake, decide to do something/s, and I also think your mother must be very concerned

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I just worked all day and then as soon as I got home I fell apart. My mother has given up trying as there is nothing she can say anymore. Every baby that I saw at work i thought "is that what he/she is going to look like?" and it made my heart break a little more each time.

 

Someone please tell me i'll get through this, because right now i'm not so sure.

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You will!

 

First thing, remember that even in the best of relationships, a baby at those ages is going to stress their relationship terribly. He does not sound like he has the maturity to be able to weather that well.

 

So remember that they are not and will not be experiencing the blissful picture and front that they present to the world.

 

Plus, later on, when you have healed, and established a new normal, you are highly likely to find a man who will love, respect, and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

 

And, even if the doctors are right and you can't have biological children, there are options such as surrogacy or adoption. You can still have the family you dream of, it just may look different than you originally thought it would.

 

But right now. Grieve. Take care of yourself. Get some counseling. Find out who offers sliding scale fees, so that you can afford it. Talk to people who care. Sometimes, people like your mother probably don't need to say anything, but just be there with you.

 

It is true that this ******* took so much from you and I am sorry. This will not be easy. You already know this. But when you are ready, you might start to consider ways that you could use what you have been through to help others who are going through something similar.

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there are 143 million orphans in the world, that's 143 million lil children who need a mom's cuddle, I think you are much needed, Ginger

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Gingerlee:

Due to your suicidal thoughts and the aftermath of your miscarriage, it would be prudent to seek professional help from a counselor. Also, please do get in touch with your mom as she will give you comfort and help you with figuring out how to proceed with your uni studies. I know the pain now seems insurmountable, but you have your entire life ahead of you to find love again and to carve out a life worth living. Don't throw away your future for someone who doesn't deserve the depth of feelings you are feeling for him.

In Support,

Grumps

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