Petunia20 Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 I'm on 82 days of NC. Lately the weather has been changing and its been making me feel very sad in the mornings. I have been thinking more about him and missing him more than I had in the past weeks. At times I feel like breaking NC. Any words of encouragement will be helpful...
petall Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Well done. You've come far. But you will be back to Day 1 if you take the risk of contacting him and he ignores you/replies nastily.
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Not worth it!! It won't make you feel better. It won't give you any closure. It will set you back. It will make you question everything. It will hurt!!
Mr Scorpio Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 I'm on 82 days of NC. Lately the weather has been changing and its been making me feel very sad in the mornings. I have been thinking more about him and missing him more than I had in the past weeks. At times I feel like breaking NC. Any words of encouragement will be helpful... I can identify with the bolded. I've heard of people being glum during the Winter due to lack of sunlight (seasonal affective disorder). For me, it always comes during the end of Summer/start of Autumn. I miss taking walks along the lake and watching the colors change while holding hands because the air is crisp. I miss cuddling up at bonfires. If I don't catch myself, I'll just stare at the sky while the sunsets, picturing myself with my ex on the beach watching the sunset. It sucks. As for NC? Don't break it. Depending on how long the relationship was, 82 days (while a good accomplish) is a drop in the bucket. Don't set yourself back. Doing so would be no different than an alcoholic buying a bottle of whiskey after 82 days of sobriety. 1
Author Petunia20 Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 I can identify with the bolded. I've heard of people being glum during the Winter due to lack of sunlight (seasonal affective disorder). For me, it always comes during the end of Summer/start of Autumn. I miss taking walks along the lake and watching the colors change while holding hands because the air is crisp. I miss cuddling up at bonfires. If I don't catch myself, I'll just stare at the sky while the sunsets, picturing myself with my ex on the beach watching the sunset. It sucks. As for NC? Don't break it. Depending on how long the relationship was, 82 days (while a good accomplish) is a drop in the bucket. Don't set yourself back. Doing so would be no different than an alcoholic buying a bottle of whiskey after 82 days of sobriety. I hate the cold and we met in the winter so I guess it has a significance for me. I too miss feeling the crisp air hit my face while walking along side him. I miss driving up to the mountains and kissing his cold nose. We were together 3 1/2 years. I wont break NC, its pointless at this point. I guess I just miss him a lot more these days. I wont risk how far I have come. I just need someone to tell me that they understand and that it will get better. Because at this point I feel like it wont.
Mr Scorpio Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 I just need someone to tell me that they understand and that it will get better. Because at this point I feel like it wont. I understand. I imagine everyone here understands. And yes, it will get better. Whats more, you can play an active role in how quickly it gets better. 3
clementyne Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Don't do it! It aint worth it! Agree...it ain't worth it. Btw, I like the quote in your siggy 1
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