Out of the blue

[dub4502]

Hey guys, I don't post much here, but frequently read the forums. I just went through a break up last week, and it was somewhat out of the blue, and need to get it off my chest. A little back story I am 28 and she is 23, and have had been dating for 2 1/2 years. We met working together and knew each other for a year before we started dating. Everything seemed great till about 3 weeks before the breakup, I could tell something was wrong but she would not discuss anything, just every things fine, that's really all I could get.

 

I kept inquiring and said we should discuss any issue we have as we are past the "honeymoon" phase and a relationship takes work, it's not just magically perfect. I got the response you are smothering me by asking me whats wrong. So we met for dinner a few nights later and we were talking and she said she was confused and stressed about work, school, me, and didn't know what she wanted and asked what I think we should do. I suggested we work together through this rough patch and assured her I support her school, work decisions and everyday decisions. She agreed we should work together with each other.

 

Ok, all seemed good, I went and picked her up at her house Saturday morning, we went to lunch, went home watched a movie, she stayed over, same thing Sunday hung out all day, made a nice dinner together and watched football. The next night I went to her parents house for dinner, all seemed good. I invited her over Wednesday night and told her i would make her dinner. She accepted and asked if she could just stay the night, it will be a fun sleepover, of course you can stay. Great all went well, she left a 4 in the morning to go to work, gave me a kiss and said she loves me very much, and I texted her thanks for coming last night, I had a good time. To my surprise when I woke up for work at 8, expecting her text to be a good morning text, instead to my surprise it was a i'm all done this isn't going to work out, i'm confused text! She said she didn't have time to talk and would call me at 9PM, and just kept texting me about, finally I called her and she gave me maybe 5 minutes and said yea we shouldn't talk for a long time, and really gave me no other reason than she is confused. She did keep saying how hard it was because she does love me and knows I am giving her everything she wants and then some, I don't know what more I could've done?

 

I've gone no contact now for a week, she removed me from FB which isn't anything crazy, kind of expected. Should i try to contact her to get some closure, because i feel there really is none? Or should I just forget her because really her communication is awe full, passive aggressive about everything, and wont ever say there is a problem, won't admit she has issue and always says it's me not her. Thanks for any advice guys.

[bigmomma1974]

wow that's a shock even to me. I would remain no contact give her the space she asked for. She may truely be confused and just needs time to work things out within herself. When relationships end it is tough on both parties. keep yourself busy and do things for yourself. take this time to explore your options. Things in life happen for a reason. Hang in there stay strong and leave things be for awhile. She might realize she loves and misses you and be back before you know it, if you want her back.

[barky2]

Sorry to hear it man.

 

Any contact from you will push her away.

 

Re read that.

 

I promise you that.

 

Could be gigs. Could be someone else.

 

Who knows. Who cares.

 

What you need to do is focus on yourself for a little bit, go have some fun.

 

If she wants to get back with you and regret it , you'll be the first to know.

 

Act like its over forever. And deal with any headaches as they come.

 

Do not answer her bs texts "how are you" ect.

 

Don't do it.

 

Ignore her.

 

She wants you out of her life?

 

Sweet. DO IT.

 

Carry on yours.

 

Go have fun with your friends...remember now dude...your single again

 

 

 

 

Barky