Should I tell her how i feel? Or just let it go...?

[SmilingMartin]

To make a long story short:

I met this girl over the summer, i had just gotten out of a REALLY BAD relationship and she was on the verge of dumping her boyfriend. We would talk for hours every nite and at first we were just friends and i had no feelings for her what so ever.

 

Time passed, she broke up with her bf and we were always together, she would always call me and we would always hang out together. It was fun, but the more we hung out the more i developed feelings for this girl. She too also developed feelings for me, more than a friend feeling.

 

I ignored this feeling because i was scared to get hurt. She on the other hand followed her feelings and started showing me signs of interests, I on the other hand still pretended to be just a friend even tho i liked her. We would on the beach and stuff and just talk forever. I Loved spending time with her and ill admit i wanted to make her mine but i was too scared.

 

I never called her, when we would hang out in groups i wouldnt act the same way, i never showed interest even tho i knew i liked her. I feel like a big a s s hole because of this, and i want to explain to her why. Now shes starting to hook up with another guy and its been 8 weeks since we last talked. I really want to get it out of my chest and i dont want thing from it, ive accepted the fact that were not meant to be

 

So should i tell her how i feel or just let it go? because its killing me inside but on the other hand i dont want ehr to think im weird or anything..

 

Some advice would be great...thanks

[Merin]

Life is to short to have regret over what you wish you had told someone but didn't..

 

Tell her.

[SmilingMartin]

How should i bring it about?? its been 8 weeks since we last talked and i dont wanna bring it out of the blue especially if she tryin to hook up with another guy.

 

I also dont want her to think im trying to get back with her, im moving on, its just im mr sensitive and i just want to let her know and i want to get it out my chest.

[Devildog]

She made it obvious to you that she was interested in you. She is looking to date someone else because you never really expressed your feelings. That is why she is moving on. Did you just expect her to keep waiting patiently for you to grow a pair or something? Why did you act differently towards her around other people? Afraid they were going to rip on you for "having a girlfriend"?

 

I would suggest you tell her how you feel as soon as possible before she starts a relationship with this other person. If she has already started a relationship with someone else then this is a good opportunity to start acting like a man and just back away quietly.

[Puma]

i would tell her..its fair for both of yo to clear things up. why you didnt act on it..is beyond me but ya have ur reasons. dont get to teh point where u gonna stress yourself over it too much and say "what if' for a long time..so its better ya tell her

[snipit3172]

if i was you i would e mail text or write a note tell her you miss spending time together and explain why you was a bit apprehensive and you never know just mention going for a drink or something see aht she says good luck

[SmilingMartin]

Ok the reason why i didnt act on it was because i was too scared to get hurt again, i had just gotten out of a really bad relationship REALLY BAD. But this girl she was there to pick me up off of the floor and i was there to pick her up off of the floor. Another reason why i didnt act on it was because we were from 2 different worlds. Shes one of the popular cheerleader that all the guys want and im the non-jock, funny, not a loser but not popular but knows a lot of people kinda person and i guess i wasnt confident in myself. I realized now that these things dont matter and i have to deal with the fact that i had messed up real bad

 

So should i just tell her even tho shes tryin to hook up with another guy??

 

Will this make me look gay or wanting to have her back??

 

How should i bring it up? and again, i just want to get it out of my chest and nothing more.

[Lost In Canada]

I think it will only make you sound honest. Even if nothing does come out of this, I think you should write a letter saying everything you have said here. If it brings her to you great, if it doesn't I think you will feel better having done this. Remember though how you were there for each others pain. I'm sure this will help you heal as well.

Good luck