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I never did so much as go on a date until I was 20 years old. I still live at home. Yet I have dated more girls than I can count. What's funniest of all? My biggest time period of dating the most girls occurred when I was without money and unemployed. In fact, my date life has gone sour since I've been making steady money. Perhaps less time focused on getting girls and more focus on getting money. Whatever the case, you would assume working and being around more people and having money would make you more attractive than being unemployed and without money.

 

There was a girl I dated a year and a half ago, with whom I'm still friends with today. We talk all the time but we just didn't remain in a relationship longer than a few months. This girl is close to my age (I'm 25) and she's gorgeous. She's hot. She liked that I played guitar and she liked my red hair.

 

We were a hot item together.

 

That night I went to my work. A girl I worked with who was 19 years old came up to me with an awkward smile. She asked if she could ask me a personal question. I said, "Sure."

 

She asked, "Are you a virgin?" I was slightly offended. Here I am, just a few hours after doing the naughty with my hot 19 year old girlfriend and another hot 19 year old girl thinks I am a virgin. Later that same night, me and another worker were talking about guitars. Another girl I work with said, "...you play guitar??" I said, "Yeah, why?" She said, "You don't look like you'd play guitar, you look like you'd play the tuba."

 

Again, I was insulted. These girls look at me and see a redheaded Tuba-playing virgin. When in reality, I'm a redheaded guitar-playing womanizer.

 

It's the way I am perceived. I do often feel out of the times. One step behind. The best example of that is a picture from after my sister's wedding. All the guys from the wedding party were walking "Reservoir Dogs" style down the sidewalk and suddenly everyone decided to grab each other's hands and jump in the air for a picture. I tried, but as you can see from the photo, I was the only one who didn't think, "Let's all be youthful goofballs and jump in the air holding hands."

 

https://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash4/8435_1253240293061_3382050_n.jpg

 

I was one step behind.

 

So my question is, am I a square? Am I "too cool" to be a goofball? I joke around, I'm funny, but I always get this impression that people my age are messing with me.

 

I must confess, I am different than most people my age. I'm much more "cowboy", "old school". I love classic rock (50s-90s), movies and pop culture especially from the 1980s, and politically I am much more on par with 20-30 years ago than today. Would I have been perfect if it was 1983 as opposed to 2013? Is it just finding the right type of girls?

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I don't think it's necessarily finding the right "type" of girls, but rather finding a woman who is going to accept and appreciate you for you. Why would you even want to be with someone that you had to appear differently to be with?

 

Also, I laughed out loud at the photo, but not in the way you're thinking. I thought it was cute and my first thought was that you were different not one to go with the crowd. Different is good.

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You're a womanizer who's baning a hot 19 y/o, so who cares?

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You're a womanizer who's baning a hot 19 y/o, so who cares?

 

But I never get any. I haven't been with a girl in 9 months and before her, it was a year.

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