paigej91 Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Guys- what's your input? The full phrase was "How've you been? It's been awhile." (following a sentence or so of irrelevant text about a different topic).
Philosoraptor Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 He's checking in, that's all. No reason to respond as it's more than likely just a comment to get a reaction out of you. If you want to respond, send back "not long enough, please leave me alone"
Author paigej91 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 He's checking in, that's all. No reason to respond as it's more than likely just a comment to get a reaction out of you. If you want to respond, send back "not long enough, please leave me alone" What's the motive behind checking in? Friendly/innocent? Seeing what I'm up to because he misses me?
FitChick Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 If you like him, respond positively. If you don't, ignore. If he had no interest in you at all, he'd never contact you. Why should he?
tlegend Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Guys- what's your input? The full phrase was "How've you been? It's been awhile." (following a sentence or so of irrelevant text about a different topic). Could you elaborate a bit? Whats the story behind you two? And however irrelevant you think that comment was, it could be that this phrase was just a precursor to talk to you about what you thought was irrelevant....
Author paigej91 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 (edited) Could you elaborate a bit? Whats the story behind you two? And however irrelevant you think that comment was, it could be that this phrase was just a precursor to talk to you about what you thought was irrelevant.... We had an amazing spark/chemistry when we first met (mental and physical, but especially mental). We essentially had no chance of ever knowing each other, but we met and just hit off. I know this feeling is mutual because he mentioned it once or twice. We dated for about 4 months since then. He told me he wasn't seeing anyone else, but a relationship didn't emerge. We just kind of stopped dating. The reason(s) are unclear, but I would probably guess it was due to dating for too long. It'd be stupid to say there isn't something between us. I have him in the friend-zone right now, but that could certainly change with some ease (there just won't be a middle zone). Edited September 27, 2013 by paigej91
kassy Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 If that is the case then surely responding to his message and hopefully meeting up soon would be the easiest way to get some clarity? I don't really see what you are to lose
Author paigej91 Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 The point of my post is to gather opinions-like a poll. Obviously no one can tell me for sure.
todreaminblue Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Guys- what's your input? The full phrase was "How've you been? It's been awhile." (following a sentence or so of irrelevant text about a different topic). could be either.......its hard to contact someone when you have been out of contact for a while...trust me i know i normally say something really goofy.....and then worry until they reply........stoic men will throw off hand comments into phone calls or texts to try and appear to be ..well....lol...offhand and not invested in your reply...smilin....i am on the surface a stoic female.....but then ...paranoia gets the better of me..i have a feeling because of the unrelated sentence it is a stoic guys way of saying hey miss ya please reply i do actually want you to reply.......never say that to him....lol.....let him have his stoicness...... reply to him if you like him as another poster said...because if you truly like someone you dont want them to hang even if you dont know they are hanging you do it just because they might be and you also do it because you really do want to reply and if you didnt reply...you are really only playing games...games end eventually and always end....your friendship or future knowing this guy doesnt have to end...you decide............best wishes...deb
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