Should I be concerned? (he wont' stop pursuing)

[SpiralOut]

At first I thought this was harmless, but now I am concerned . . . this guy is acting really creepy.

 

I met him 1 1/2 years ago though online dating. I made it clear from the start that I didn't want anything longterm. I was rebounding and just wanted to have fun. We saw each other for about 2 months. There were several times when he put me down. He also began to act jealous and asked if I wanted to be exclusive. When he put me down I told him he wasn't being nice, and he didn't apologize. The last time I saw him, he spent the entire time making rude jokes about me and acting weird.

 

On top of this, he refused to call me on the phone or let me call him. He didn't even have a cell phone to text me with. It felt sketchy. Plus something about him didn't seem right. He wasn't working, yet still owned a condo and car and then he went on a vacation because he was bored. Yet his condo was practically empty. It looked like nobody lived there. He also used to make plans with me in the evenings, but suddenly he refused to do that even though he wasn't busy. Instead, he wanted to come over to my place on my lunchbreak just to have sex with me. I told him no. He didn't listen and kept trying to talk me into it. I became angry and said no. It felt wrong. This was all too much for me and I ended things.

 

Afterwards he sent me messages. I told him I wasn't interested. He got upset and asked me why not. I told him why not. He didn't apologize or explain anything. Instead he just told me how much he liked me. Then a few days later he sent more emails acting as if nothing had happened. He would send 3 or 4 in a row if I didn't answer. This is a pattern with him. He doesn't listen to what I say, and he pretends that nothing is wrong. I ignored most of them. Finally I decided enough was enough, so I told him that not only do I not want to see him anymore, but I don't want to talk to him either. He continued to send emails. I blocked him. All of this happened over the course of about a year, by the way.

 

It has been maybe 4-5 months since I last heard from him. I figure he has forgotten about me by now. I go back to the OLD site (after I had my profile hidden for several months). Last night he contacted me again. He wasn't blocked because he had changed his username. He had kept it exactly the same except added an extra N to the end of it. This leads me to believe that he did not change his username for fun, or to reinvent his image like people do sometimes. He did it so it wouldn't be blocked.

 

I am feeling weirded out. He hasn't threatened me or anything but this feels wrong.

Edited September 26, 2013 by SpiralOut

[Misfortune]

Block him again and any other time he makes contact online. If it becomes a real world thing and you feel endangered, go to the authorities.

[todreaminblue]

he is probably a married real estate agent(keys to empty condo) with a wife who uses his phone so he never has it....and a company car to drive prospectives to look at prospective empty condo real easte.....

 

 

send him a message something like this as formal as possible......but with a bit of heart to soften it.....

 

 

 

i seriously advice you not to contact me in any way or form from now on ,our association is now an association that makes me uncomfortable

 

 

if you fail to take my advice,I would consider this to be an opportunity to be able to provide documentation in regards to a harrasment suit against you, I wish you no ill will may your journey in life be safe i have no desire to take this further but I do not need or want further contact with you, if you could take note of this message i would appreciate your respect.....

 

i will take it to an enforced decision if need be.......please do not reply to this message, unless of course, you want me to use that returned message against you in the future .thank you good bye

Edited September 26, 2013 by todreaminblue

[Mrlonelyone]

You could just refuse to respond to him at all.