Author FriedRice Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 The "I didn't have time" line is BS. She didn't have time because she didn't make it a priority to make time. She said you're not as important to me as these other things. That's not cool of her. You deserve better than that. well she did try to make time for me...i guess she was busy with work, family, and also her volunteering so she didnt have much time during the summer. She has work on monday and wednesday, Volunteer from 10-2pm on tuesday and thursday, and friday, saturday, and sunday is family time for her because she doesnt want her mom/dad to be along at home while the other one is working...when i asked for more time, she did try to work less and give us much time to me as possible and she go online and chat with me a lot more then before. used to be like 30mins to an hour online, but after i talked to her she chat with me for about 2-3hours a night...thats y i feel like i wasnt able to understand her and appreciate what she did for me and all i did was think about myself and being selfish towards her to benefit my own needs...
Author FriedRice Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 Look man, at the risk of being ridiculed on here... just going off my one experience I would say go see her. Who cares what feeling it gives her for her to see you, you only care about yourself right now and if seeing her will give you that last goodbye and to see she probably won't take you back then I just say do it. Yes it may cause pain but i don't believe ending on a fight is ever a good thing. Don't think about her for a minute and what she wants or if she would like to see you. don't not see her because u don't want her to have that piece of cake. Block that from your mind. Would it make YOU feel a bit better to at least end things on a nicer note before you go complete NC? For me i took the risk and I am happy i did it although a lot of others would disagree from their experiences. Good luck with your decision, I know you will be ok either way. We are all in this together. after some thinking, i think that its best if i go see her and say my farewells and goodbye to her before i initiate NC. i know that i might be hurt again after saturday, but my heart is telling me to at least give her the hangout and end it on good terms. also saying last words to her that i have always kept inside for the past 5 weeks since we broke up. i do want to be her friends in the near future because we were pretty much like bestfriends while we were dating and i dont really want to lose her out of my life forever. Thank you for the honest opinion and support!
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 after some thinking, i think that its best if i go see her and say my farewells and goodbye to her before i initiate NC. i know that i might be hurt again after saturday, but my heart is telling me to at least give her the hangout and end it on good terms. also saying last words to her that i have always kept inside for the past 5 weeks since we broke up. i do want to be her friends in the near future because we were pretty much like bestfriends while we were dating and i dont really want to lose her out of my life forever. Thank you for the honest opinion and support! This is easily the worst thing you can do. Enjoy Saturday because you will be hurting SOO much on sunday. You know, I know, Hellen Keller trapped in a bomb shelter knows your intentions. There is NO way that this "friendly" get together will go well and right now ALL you can think about is the friends route because you feel like it will get you back to the level of dating again. Are you cool with her having sex with other guys? Are you cool with her talking about her new relationship and how happy she is? I can promise you all the answers to that are no, so you are NOT ready to be friends with her. And this "last words" whatever is all bull. This isnt Hollywood. She moved on from you, so therefore, anything you really say on the subject is going to look clingy and unwanted. You will hear a lot of "I understand" or "I hope you find happiness" or whatever cilche line. OR she will get mad and storm off. Closure doesnt come from other people....it comes from within. This is a awful mistake and will see you back farther than you are now....even if it feels you havent moved at all. 1
Ansem Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Don't go see her simple as that. Honestly if you're crying over her then you're not ready. If she's truly over you then she's gonna see that weakness in your face and be disgusted by you; ruining any chance of getting back with her. And here's another thing, stop with the false hope of reconciliation; move on with your life and start looking for another girl. Last thing, for the love of god do not return her gifts, especially any written cards. Throw all that sentimental crap away and forget about her. Think of it this way, if she broke up with you - why should you have to make all the efforts in getting her back? Think about that really hard and tell me if she's still worth it. My girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago but its been about a month of NC. I understand where you are right now bc I was in the same boat during my first week or so. But the sooner you understand that you need to move on, the better and easier it will go for you. As soon as I did that I felt more confident and started working out and **** to be back on the hunt within 2-3months time.
reddragon588 Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 feel like giving everything back to her even the stuff she gave me as gifts lol...i dont want any of it anymore. probably a bad idea since they are gifts. there are still plenty of stuff in my room that she give me as gifts and i still havent put them away yet. maybe i should start doing that soon -.- i dont really want to delete her off of facebook because that will make it seem like i am weak and can't even handle being her friend on facebook. i blocked all notifications from her on my facebook so it shouldnt be a problem anymore. though i can still see when shes online and stuff through my phone's facebook. It's not about looking weak or looking strong, it's about doing what is best for you. Clearly having her on Facebook is not helping you. You should delete her. If she doesn't like it, tough ish. If she didn't want you to delete her as a friend on Facebook, she shouldn't have deleted you as a friend in real life. I've made the most progress since deleting my ex on social media. It is an absolute necessity to do.
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