I fell for my guy friend

[Yellow21]

Well basically i met this guy in my first year at uni, at first i didn't really speak to him but we grew really close throughout uni. During the duration of uni all of our peers thought that we were having sex, and girls on my course would approach me and ask me if i was having sex with him , and boys would also ask him if something was going on. The truth was nothing was going on, me and him never once had sex, or kissed or anything like that ever. But he was always really touchy with me and i guess this is where people got the idea from.

 

It was during our final year of uni that my feelings for him started we spent so much time together doing our dissertations and other uni work. I also found that our friendship was always based on me helping him with his work and guiding him, in what to do in fact whenever he would call me the majority of the conversation would be work based (his work), and whenever i would try bring up another topic it would be dismissed straight away.

 

I then found that his friend slowly began to ask me for help as well which annoyed me a bit kind of like his friend was taking advantage, as he saw i how i would help (MGC) MY guy crush, anyway one accident occurred where i was helping my (MGC) with his references, as soon as his friend found out what i was doing, he immediately drop on the floor with laughter, which hurt my feelings very much. MGC ask him to stop but the damage was done it seemed to me like they were taking the piss.

 

Now and again i would tell MGC how i felt that i felt that he was using me for his work and that our friend ship was just based in uni he would assure me it wasn't. i spoke to my male friend about this and he told me that if the friendship didn't occur when uni finish he was using you. well after uni he would kind of ignore my calls, the text messages were short and abrupt and he never once ask to meet up with me.

 

Throughout uni i had one other friend who was a girl, MGC and her hardly spoke, but after uni, they signed up to do a course which they were both in together, when he did call me he randomly tell me how sexy she was and how thick her thighs were. Once he called me and i was excited to speak to him then he just said this is a quick call he just wanted my friends number. he told me how he went to her dads restaurant and made it seem it was just them two when i asked her she told me 6 other people went.

 

The other day one of my other friends went to meet up with my friend from uni and she told me that MGC was their with her this immediately got me angry and ended my friendship with him i didnt tell him it was because i was jealous of whatever relationship they have i told it because i felt he used me throughout uni and that their was no real friendship when uni ended.

 

what really annoys me is that throughout my friendship he never once ask me to go out but with her he seems to try really hard and go out with her when they have just become friends. when i sent him the message he sent one long one saying hes shocked and where is all this coming from he even told me he ask for her advice which pissed me of even more. but then after that he stopped texting so now i feel the situation is in limbo he hasn't replied back so shall i just tell him the truth or leave it how it is

[Philosoraptor]

Sounds like wanted no more than a friendship with you but was interested in your other friend on a more romantic level.

 

Sorry, life happens that way sometimes. You couldn't make him interested in you that way, just didn't click for him.