DonnyPinterCA Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 So I felt the need to post this because the last week or so I have been feeling really down and am missing my ef GF, which seems crazy given that she broke up with me about 1 year and 4 months ago. We were only together for about 9 months, but she was my first serious relationship and have never clicked with a girl as well as I did with her. I took the relationship for granted and started hanging out with my firends a lot more than her, so she ended it. I never saw it coming. So in the last year and four months, I've talked with a bunch of different women but have not been in a relationship for more than a month with any of them. While all were great towards the beginning, the flame never lasted very long with any of them. These relationships helped me get my mind off my ex, but it's really disappointing that I haven't felt the intense spark that I had with my ex. I come on here as I feel really down at the moment. The summer is coming to an end and winter is around the corner. I have been working a lot of hours lately and don't have much personal time to go out and date. Also, the friends I used to hang out with (which introduced me to my ex), I know longer hang out with because I can't trust them; a few of them conspired and bad mouthed me to my ex so that one of their closer friends could get with her. Basically I am getting down because I can't seem to find a girl that I have any long-term interest in. Plus, I don't have much time to go out and find women and also my social circle has shrunk as I only really hang out with my real close friends on the weekends. I don't contact my ex and there has been no contact for about a half a year. I'm sure she is well over me, but I just hate that I am having a down period right now. I really miss her. I guess I'm just venting. I just really hope that someday I can find a girl that makes me as excited as my ex did. Right now it doesnt seem possible after all this time....
coolheadal Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 These thinks happen. You really need to change what you do daily. Still have to work but when you don't, do something else that you would never do before. Everyone always follows a pattern. This is how everyone falls into lower area of their lives. That ex has moved on you need to pull it together from your gut and know that you'll find someone else that you can feel good with and trust. Never give up hope as we all need this. Emotions can take over your and make you feel low. This emotion can also make you feel positive but you need to work on the intent on the positive side. Why don't you join some groups after work with the same interest. What do you like to do read, play pool stuff like that. Just do something other than siting there feel said for yourself. Make the change and you feel 100% again. Give it a try!
seekingpeaceinlove Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 You will be fine and you will love again. It took me a few years to get over my 1st love.. mainly because he kept contacting me. Since him, I've been in 2 other relationships, the last one being the most serious. I realize that it takes many Mr. Wrongs to find Mr. Right. If I can't handle break ups or don't learn from them, I shouldn't be in the dating scene. You need to be tough in order to participate in the dating world. Your purpose is finding that special someone. All it takes is one, right? When we find the right one...all of this sh*t that we're going through will be worth it because you'll be wiser, stronger, and better. Try to remain positive and take it day by day! 1
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