MalachiX Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Ok, quick rundown of situation: About a week and a half ago I hooked up with a girl at a party. We'd vaguely known each other because we're in the same grad program and have had a few conversations about photography but not much more than that. Anyway, we hooked up, had a pretty amazing night of great sex, and I stayed with her until the morning. Afterwards, a friend came to pick her up to take her to a doctor's appointment (she was having some eye trouble and actually had to where an eye patch for a week). I offered to give her a ride myself but she'd already called her friend. We swapped numbers and I stayed until she left. We started messaging back and forth and I stared to think that I'd like to ask her out. Granted this started as just a casual thing but I was surprised to find that I actually felt something and was curious to see if there's something there. Of course, I did't know if this was just a one time thing in her mind so I was a bit cautious. After a few days of messaging, I texted her, "Hey, I'd really like to ask you out because you're cool and because i have a thing for girls with eye patches. That said, it's totally cool if you're not interested and I promise I won't get my feelings hurt if you say 'no.'" She messaged me back, "Ha! Of course we can go out. When I don't have my eye patch..." Anyway, I asked her if she was free the following weekend and she said she had a friend coming into town who would stay with her most of the week. This week I asked again if she had any free time for dinner and she said she wasn't sure because she agreed to a shoot. It's been a few days and I'd like to ask her again but I'm not sure if I'm pushing it or not. She always seems to respond back to my texts immediately and seems very enthusiastic. That said, I've been given the polite brush-off before and I also don't want to scare her off by constantly texting her. The whole thing is funny because we really don't know each other that well. We just seemed to have a quick connection when we were both drunk. I'm not even sure if there's anything here, I just want to find out.
brittneyfoster Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Ok, quick rundown of situation: About a week and a half ago I hooked up with a girl at a party. We'd vaguely known each other because we're in the same grad program and have had a few conversations about photography but not much more than that. Anyway, we hooked up, had a pretty amazing night of great sex, and I stayed with her until the morning. Afterwards, a friend came to pick her up to take her to a doctor's appointment (she was having some eye trouble and actually had to where an eye patch for a week). I offered to give her a ride myself but she'd already called her friend. We swapped numbers and I stayed until she left. We started messaging back and forth and I stared to think that I'd like to ask her out. Granted this started as just a casual thing but I was surprised to find that I actually felt something and was curious to see if there's something there. Of course, I did't know if this was just a one time thing in her mind so I was a bit cautious. After a few days of messaging, I texted her, "Hey, I'd really like to ask you out because you're cool and because i have a thing for girls with eye patches. That said, it's totally cool if you're not interested and I promise I won't get my feelings hurt if you say 'no.'" She messaged me back, "Ha! Of course we can go out. When I don't have my eye patch..." Anyway, I asked her if she was free the following weekend and she said she had a friend coming into town who would stay with her most of the week. This week I asked again if she had any free time for dinner and she said she wasn't sure because she agreed to a shoot. It's been a few days and I'd like to ask her again but I'm not sure if I'm pushing it or not. She always seems to respond back to my texts immediately and seems very enthusiastic. That said, I've been given the polite brush-off before and I also don't want to scare her off by constantly texting her. The whole thing is funny because we really don't know each other that well. We just seemed to have a quick connection when we were both drunk. I'm not even sure if there's anything here, I just want to find out. Ask her again!!
coolheadal Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I can see her point not going out with you with the eye patch on. But you need to be patient and wait for her. What's the rush she told you until the eye patch comes off she'll go out.. Relax Give a few weeks. Call or text her. See how she answers you? If you get a nonsense method of reply then move on and find someone that can give you the time of day and make your happy!
Author MalachiX Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Perhaps the better question is how do I strike a balance between letting her know I'm still interested and checking when she's free without scaring her off? Right now, I've tried to hold off and message her every other day. We usually then chat for a while online when I do. I'd like to check back to see if she's figured out when she's shooting this weekend but I also don't want to keep pushing if that's going to scare her off.
nescafe1982 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Ask her again!! +1. Sounds interested to me!
coolheadal Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Perhaps the better question is how do I strike a balance between letting her know I'm still interested and checking when she's free without scaring her off? Right now, I've tried to hold off and message her every other day. We usually then chat for a while online when I do. I'd like to check back to see if she's figured out when she's shooting this weekend but I also don't want to keep pushing if that's going to scare her off. Why don't you show up in person and bring some flowers and nice gift (wrapped or in gift bag with some colorful tissue paper) gift could be a sad looking puppy look up and saying I miss you! Just be creative and don't do what everyone else does in situations like this. Make something happen though!
joeLove Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 You know where she lives? work? Agree with the last comment ... surprise her with something different. Be creative. Do something unexpected ... sometimes text, text, text ... gets boring !!! Good luck.
cif Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Imo she sounds interested but don't show up to her work or home... you dont know her well enough yet. Since your contact is ongoing, how about end one of them by telling her to let you know when she has a free night for dinner or whatever? 1
Author MalachiX Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Why don't you show up in person and bring some flowers and nice gift (wrapped or in gift bag with some colorful tissue paper) gift could be a sad looking puppy look up and saying I miss you! Just be creative and don't do what everyone else does in situations like this. Make something happen though! Nice idea. Can I poll all the smart ladies on the board? Ladies, if you hooked up with a guy, texted about going out but got too busy to actually see one another, would you find it charming if he left flowers and a card at your place or would you find it pushy/creepy?
Author MalachiX Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 Imo she sounds interested but don't show up to her work or home... you dont know her well enough yet. Since your contact is ongoing, how about end one of them by telling her to let you know when she has a free night for dinner or whatever? Tried that. Still hasn't hit me back (which is why I wondered if she was going cold) but still seems to respond enthusiastically when I message her. Any other ways to try to keep her interested? Is it better just to shrug it off and wait for her to decide (and perhaps see someone else)?
nescafe1982 Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Nice idea. Can I poll all the smart ladies on the board? Ladies, if you hooked up with a guy, texted about going out but got too busy to actually see one another, would you find it charming if he left flowers and a card at your place or would you find it pushy/creepy? Creepy. Definitely creepy. No flowers before the third date, minimum.
Author MalachiX Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 Appreciated. Anything subtle that isn't creepy?
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