T_W Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I have always liked her, since the first time I met her about a year and half ago. She was married, in a troubled relationship. Now she is separated from her husband, a few months ago. We don't see each other very often, she is a friend's friend. I had gone through a horrible divorce myself (2 and half years ago). I understand what she is going through. She agreed to catch up for breakfast, it will be the first time we see each other without other friends. I have always liked her that way, it would be my very last intention to make her life more complicated than what she is going through right now. I'm not sure what to do, have been thinking about her a lot, sometimes losing sleep over it. Perhaps it's the wrong time and she only likes me as a friend. I don't want to lose her as a friend either, if I tell her how I feel. What should I do in this situation? I wouldn't treat her with anything less than respect.
coolheadal Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 You wrote this as novel, but in any case you need to call and talk on the phone. Make a date to meet. If you get the cold shoulder method, then say thanks for talking and hang-up the phone. Now move on.. If you get a positive answer then set time to meet. Find out what's happening and don't get caught up into tangled mess.
Phantom888 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 wait till her divorce is final. You don't want any divorce drama while you are dating her. 2
giblesp Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Wait until her head and heart is clear of her present relationship. Otherwise it could get confusing for both of you.
Author T_W Posted October 2, 2013 Author Posted October 2, 2013 (edited) We met up for breakfast over the weekend. It has been three months since she separated from her husband. They are still going through divorce settlement. We had a nice chat about 2 and half hours. I have always liked her that way. She said there are "a few" guys she is interested at the moment!?! I just jokingly said I'm sure that you have many admirers. She sent me a text the next day, thanked me for breakfast. I replied and asked her out on a date at a classical concert this week, but she has already got dinner plans on that night. She said otherwise she would love to join me. I'm not sure what to do next, obviously she is going through tough times, I have always liked her, would love to help her out in any way I can, at the same time I don't want to make it complicated for her. She said she is interested in a few guys? I don't know what to make out of that. What should I do? I really like her a lot. Edited October 2, 2013 by T_W
deathandtaxes Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 wait till her divorce is final. You don't want any divorce drama while you are dating her. Not only that, but you WILL be the rebound. She may think she's ready for something, but she's not. Heck, I thought I was ready for something after splitting from my ex-wife, but I look back and realize I was foolish. I think I just wanted to be crazy and go **** anybody I could. It's been a year since the separation and ten months since the divorce, and I think I might just be ready for something serious. Let her go. The timing is the worst in the world.
miss_jaclynrae Posted October 2, 2013 Posted October 2, 2013 The relationship after a divorce is always a rebound... no matter how great things are, or how perfect of a couple you make. 1
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