Jjacko Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I fancy this guy who I see occasionally through work. We had a thing for a few wks, but it didnt last as he is not ready for a relationship yet. He seems to flirt with me when I see him, got jealous a few wks ago when I asked him a guys name, and sometimes says stuff to try n keep me around and interested. The confusing bit is that he doesn't text or call me at all, and rarely replies if I occasionally text him. He never seemed to be a bit texter or caller when I was seeing him. Is he trying to distance himself from me and push me away or is he trying to tell me to give him space to be ready for a relationship or be with me?!? I have told him that I would be willing to wait a few months if he wants something with me in the future, yet got no reply. I told him to just tell me if he just wants to keep his options open and not to make me wait for him for no reason, yet got no reply. I told him that I would walk away if he doesn't want me down the line - again no reply! Is he not replying to distance himself and pushe away or is he not saying anything to keep me around and keep the door open to come back to me? Surely if he didnt want anything with me eventually he would just tell me as he seems to be an honest straight up guy!!!!
SarcasticAbby Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 This is very simple...he's not interested. Stop texting him. Not all men have the nerve to say it themselves. 2
TigerCub Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I fancy this guy who I see occasionally through work. We had a thing for a few wks, but it didnt last as he is not ready for a relationship yet. He seems to flirt with me when I see him, got jealous a few wks ago when I asked him a guys name, and sometimes says stuff to try n keep me around and interested. The confusing bit is that he doesn't text or call me at all, and rarely replies if I occasionally text him. He never seemed to be a bit texter or caller when I was seeing him. Is he trying to distance himself from me and push me away or is he trying to tell me to give him space to be ready for a relationship or be with me?!? I have told him that I would be willing to wait a few months if he wants something with me in the future, yet got no reply. I told him to just tell me if he just wants to keep his options open and not to make me wait for him for no reason, yet got no reply. I told him that I would walk away if he doesn't want me down the line - again no reply! Is he not replying to distance himself and pushe away or is he not saying anything to keep me around and keep the door open to come back to me? Surely if he didnt want anything with me eventually he would just tell me as he seems to be an honest straight up guy!!!! OMG you message him these 3 things and he didn't reply - yet you're still wondering if he wants to keep you around? Ok, obvioulsy the guy couldn't care less. I'm sorry. Maybe he's thinking 'I won't reply and lets see what else she will say/do?' There isn't anything there, he flirted with you a little? You think he got jealous, but really that's all up to your interpretation of things. You're telling him you will wait for him, asking if he wants to keep his options open, asking if he wants you to walk away - please stop. You don't need his permission to walk away, and you should walk away because why would you wait for someone that ignores you? If he ever replies, it will be at most to start a no strings sort of arrangement, but I doubt there is anything more. Don't settle for that kind of crap. 1
cif Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 jjacko, where do you see that this guy may be even remotely interested? Everything you posted screams NO... but perhaps you left things out?
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