First Time Being the Rebound...I think?

[Kaiten]

This is actually an interesting one for you readers looking for something good. I'll cut to the chase though.

 

I met this girl at work. She was a nice girl, pretty even, but she wasn't the type I would be attracted to physically. She is in no way ugly, it's just that I'm not attracted to her physically. Let's call her April.

 

When April introduced herself to me I didn't care. Like I said she wasn't my type. A week or two went by and I walked around a corner and heard April and a girl friend talking about how she was frustrated at a guy for his behavior.

 

Now me, I'm a genius (of sorts). And I used to be the guy confusing the girl in the relationship. Because of that I understand how frustrating it is for the girl now. Because ive been that guy, I can take some calculated guesses at motives and things.

 

After introducing myself as a genius (if nothing else, you gotta like my charisma) and told her that perhaps I could help her figure her guy out. If nothing else, help her calm down and straighten out her thoughts. She just smiled at me so I said, "No? Okay then." and walked away, simple as that.

 

Later I saw April alone and she just seemed so down so I asked her one more time if she was sure she didn't want to talk about it. I have a reputation as a very trustworthy person. I then told April that there was no pressure, and asked if I could enter my number into her phone. She said yes, but i made it clear that there was no pressure. I just wanted to extend the offer. Then I walked away.

 

She eventually ended up texting me. I conversed with her and i was careful not to bring up April's situation, so that she wouldn't feel pressured. We ended up just talking about goals in life and things of that nature. And in a way, I was beginning to feel like she was kind of interested in me. But I wrote it off as extremely unlikely because we are two different races (Which is a bigger deal in Mississippi)

 

April and I were talking one day when she hit me with the news: She and her boyfriend had broken up that day. She broke up with him.

 

I really didn't know what to say. I was expecting to play the role of the guy who says something to April that makes her patient and then her and her boyfriend would live happily ever after. Apparently she was already going to dump him.

 

I decided that there was really nothing to say, so I pretty much decided that I wasn't going to interact with April much after that day.

 

And that's when April started showing signs of interest (or at least perceived interest). When I would show up for work, she always wanted a big hug. She would like it whenever we were working together (so did I). And on days when we weren't working together we would still talk, though she would initiate most of the conversations.

 

Now I am no dumbass. I was trying to avoid talking to April because I knew full well that I was at extreme risk to being a rebound guy.

 

As much as I enjoyed April's wonderful personality, I kept my distance to keep from becoming too close to her. I even told April that I was trying to retain as much anonymity as possible so that feelings wouldn't come into play. She told me there was nothing to worry about.

 

April's girl friend, let's call her Satan, began to egg on the idea that April and I would make a great couple. I always dodged that talk. I wasn't gonna let myself get played for a rebound. Satan kept insisting that I ask April out.

 

Im the type of guy who doesn't need help with taking initiative with a woman. If I like a girl, I willl talk to her myself. I'll often ruin my chances by saying something weird, but nevertheless, my point stands.

 

Satan told me that April liked me a lot and was really wanting me to ask her out and that she really wanted to know me better. I wasn't gonna ask April out because I was smarter than that and I knew that was only a good idea if I were a dumbass (but Im not).

 

Well Satan kept egging it on with both me and April. And April was such a wonderful girl that I just couldn't resist. Like a dumbass, I asked her out.

 

So April and I went out one night after work.

 

It was all good at first. I was my usual, suave and smexy self. And really I can't help but to be that way. Me and April went out to eat and then we went somewhere alone and started talking....

 

...

 

April told me about her family life and upbringing. Her father walked out on their family. She was really hurt by that. But it turns out that we have that in common. She also was generally a misfit. I was too. I wasn't so much a misfit that I had time to anonymously post 150+ times on a forum site, but I too, was a misfit in general.

 

April started to shed some tears and then I held her and we talked about why I don't go to church anymore. (because she asked...a lot)

 

So after we talked about that April told me that she missed her ex. Now who in the hell could have seen that coming? She began to cry a bit more over her ex and then asked me to take her home. I did.

 

After that, the next time April saw me at work she wasn't as excited to see me as she had been before. Every now and then we would hug but it was on a less frequent basis. We began talking less and less. Now we don't hug or talk anymore.

 

I decided it was best to leave her alone completely. The thing is, whenever I leave her alone she comes up to me and starts conversation, and taps me on the shoulder and things like that. Now Im confused. I can't tell if she doesn't like me or what.

 

I assume that all the interest she showed before was the corollary of her breaking up with her ex. Man it sucks to be the rebound. What's worse is that I saw it all coming but I didn't listen to myself.

 

The bad part is, I actually was starting to like April. I can't tell if her interest in me is completely gone or if she never really liked me or what...

 

It's my first time being the rebound...

 

Should I just leave her alone and not entertain her when she decides to get playful with me?

[meeji]

Sounds like she comes to you for comfort and that is it.

[Kaiten]

I guess you're right man. Haven't seen her since. We could have been such good friends. Oh well.