techiedino Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Here's my story: I met this girl in my economics class.We talked a bit in group (with another guy) about majors, etc. I didn't really pay attention to her until I saw her face. She's cute and more importantly, she seems to be my kind of girl (ya know, simple on the outside, no heavy makeup or dressup). I managed to score some points in her eyes (I think) since I kinda lead our group discussion. We only meet once a week and I had to wait a whole week to see her again. So I saw her again last week. She saw me in class and smiled and waved at me. At first I didn't regconize her since she had her glasses on so I waved back , not sure if I smiled. She sat next to me. I was so nervous, my heart was pounding like hell and I couldn't open my mouth to say hi. So I pretended to use my phone. She didn't say anything either. During break time I couldn't say anything and when class was over I just left without saying bye... Now that was very stupid of me to ignore her like that (I didn't mean to). It was my golden chance to get to know her but I was screwed up big time. Today she didn't show up and Im missing her again now, like a lot. We just met and I barely know anything about her. I'm scared that she might drop this class and I will never see her again. hopefully that's not the case. So now I know I always tell myself to man up and such. I'm actually not that shy. I thought about her too much so when I met her I couldn't speak my mind. I think I will talk more with her next week when we meet again and ask for her number. It shouldn't be a problem. I don't wanna rush but I want her to know that I like her. What do you guys think I should do? I really don't wann mess this up. After getting her number, I plan on texting her something like this " hey it's me. I felt bad that last time 2 weeks ago I didn't talk to you. I think you're cool and I hope we can talk more later!" I personally don't like the idea of flirting by text. Do you think I should tell her that in person? I don't wanna freak her out by telling her how I feel. any help would be great!
Copelandsanity Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 1) First things first. Get her number. Since you think she's cute, I would find a way to mention that to her when you do so. It can be direct or done in a witty or playful way. But it at least signifies your intent. 2) Please don't text her that. You apologize for something she already forgot about and isn't a big deal. You compliment her coolness, even though you have barely spent any quality time with her. You hope for something to happen instead of making it happen. If you get her number, text her - or preferably call - to find out her upcoming schedule to make an arrangement to hang out together. 1
darkmoon Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 (edited) shy is better than looking like you hook-up with anything that moves, fact is some of those confident men have had loads of practise, that is how they learned to be smoothies I know a woman who actually refuses confident men for this reason try "can we meet for a coffee" if nothing else, and if she is as good as she seems from the outside, she will appreciate your sincerity and shyness, shyness is no big deal, violent tendencies by contrast are, as is mooching too much Edited September 25, 2013 by darkmoon 2
Author techiedino Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 (edited) @Copelandsanity: you're right. Maybe she didn't even think about me. I am just too sensitive and I tend to think about small little things. I think I will just let that go and introduce myself like we just meet then. Guess I just need to talk to her as much as possible in class. Depends on what happen I will ask her to hang out.. @darkmoon: that should work. I might ask her that. I need to let her know I like her. And yeah.. Im shy. But she seems shy, too. Truth is I don't know how to flirt. This is the first time I actually try to approach someone. Thanks alot, I really appreciate it Im really sad and disappointed since she didn't show up tonight so I really need to share my thoughts. Now I have to wait a week to see her again. Edited September 25, 2013 by techiedino
darkmoon Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 (edited) @Copelandsanity: you're right. Maybe she didn't even think about me. I am just too sensitive and I tend to think about small little things. I think I will just let that go and introduce myself like we just meet then. Guess I just need to talk to her as much as possible in class. Depends on what happen I will ask her to hang out.. @darkmoon: that should work. I might ask her that. I need to let her know I like her. And yeah.. Im shy. But she seems shy, too. Truth is I don't know how to flirt. This is the first time I actually try to approach someone. Thanks alot, I really appreciate it Im really sad and disappointed since she didn't show up tonight so I really need to share my thoughts. Now I have to wait a week to see her again. a very good idea a fresh start, seen that before and was really impressed by such a clean and pleasant sweep, yes, flirting techniques involve a bit of cheekiness, you could lean in at her and tell her she's pretty, big but is to make friends first, just chat about nice things, family members, food, holidays, classes, and ask her opinions to get her to talk, bond with her in other words, ask for her number I hope it all goes well, others, guys here, might have some things to say to you too, I write as a female, there's plenty pretty smiley girls, plenty of us, out there - so who needs to worry? Edited September 25, 2013 by darkmoon 1
Author techiedino Posted October 4, 2013 Author Posted October 4, 2013 Hi, it's me again Unfortunately just like I feared, she might drop this class. I gained my confidence and ready to ask her to hang out but I never had a chance as I haven't seen her since. She didn't show up for the last 2 weeks. next week is gonna be the exam day and if she dont come, she drops this class for sure. But I managed to find her name in my classmate list. I can email her. I think Im gonna email her next week if she still don't show up. Do you think this is a good idea? We barely know each other but ignoring her was my big mistake and I can't stand it when I lose a chance to get to know her just because I was nervous. And I know I will regret this for a long time
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