Sassy1221 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 (edited) I'm going to apologize for my grammar before hand lol. I met this guy a little over a month ago and we have been talking everyday. From the start we both had a connection with each other. He tells me everyday that I am beautiful, smart, funny, and the most amazing women he has ever met. we have shared things with each other that we haven't told anyone else. About two weeks ago he told me that he just doesn't see us going any further than what we are now HE DOESN'T KNOW WHY he feels this way just that he does. I told him how I told him how i felt for him and all he said was he just doesn't see it going any further. This killed me the only thing I wanted to do was run so that I wouldn't get hurt. I stopped talking to him for a few days but couldn't get him off my mind. He text me telling me that he didn't want to loose the connection that we have or our talks at night and cuddling from time to time. Also that he never wanted to hurt me. So I decided that I couldn't bear the thought of my life with out him and told him I was on board to see where ever this went. Every morning I wake up to a good morning text and throughout the day he tells me sweet things most recent was " your a beautiful princess and deserve to be treated as such". He tells me that he thinks about me all the time. and EVERY night he calls me with out me asking its just a known that hes going to call me, and we talk for hours sometimes until midnight when he has to be at work at 4 in the morning. I know he is killing him self by staying up late but he refuses to have it another way, if I try and let him go so he can sleep he jokes about something and changes the subject. We are both 26 and I have never text or talked to someone this much in my life. I feel like i'm in High school all over again (except we didn't have cell phones back then lol). he called me tonight about and hour after we had gotten off the phone just to tell me he couldn't sleep and wanted to tell me "good night sweet heart". He also told me today on the phone that for some reason all he could think about was just holding me. Any who I have been single for almost two years and he has been single for five. I just don't know what to think. I opened up to my mom about it and she says that he is smitten on me but might just be unsure. all my friends think i'm crazy. We have hung out 5 or 6 times due to us both working a lot but have NOT had sex so I know hes not using me for that. He did tell me the other night that he sees me as more than a friend but not a girlfriend wtf does that mean? What do I do???? Am I really just a friend? I feel lost he is honestly the nicest guy I have ever met and I fall for him more and more each day. I know its crazy we have only been talking for a little over a month...... Do I give him time? if so how much? or to I let him go completely so I don't get hurt (either way i'm gonna get hurt) PLEASE HELP!!! Edited September 25, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Copelandsanity Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Cut off all contact immediately. Stop wasting your time. After all the time that you've been spending together after he told you that he doesn't see it going any further, he's still saying the same thing. Believe him. This is a rotten person, IMO. Run. He said it's not going to happen so devote your time to someone who actually wants to be in a relationship with you. I don't see how he's rotten. What has he done? He's talked to her, cuddled with her, and been honest. It's completely plausible that everything he's told her is the truth, but the OP is so emotionally invested in him so soon that it's unhealthy. Maybe he has issues or he's not ready for something intense - which is what the tone of her post suggests she wants. She met him a month ago and barely knows him.
heartshaped Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 He sounds like a sweet talker. The type of man that's all compliments and flowery words, but very little to no action. I've learned it's best to avoid these men. They give out compliments like they're candy, but don't really mean any of it. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I have been in this situation few years back. In fact, reading your post still makes me cringe. I let it go on for 7 long months. It only ended when he got a girlfriend. I was completely crushed
mikei880 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Sassy , to me it sounds like at some point this guy got burned ( maybe 5 years ago?) And he has some walls built up. I don't think he's rotten or a manipulator , just damaged. It sounds like you lit a fire in him but he can't break through to the next level. Only he can fix himself. Probably best to move on. Good luck!
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