Time to cut my losses and move on?

[cereal_dater]

Been with this girl for two years, we broke up last month as things weren't progressing fast enough for her. She still called several times per day like nothing had changed, was very possessive about my whereabouts and if I was talking to other girls, like she didn't want me to move on, so I figured it was just a mini-breakup.

 

Sunday she dropped the ball that she had joined Plentyoffish online dating. I said, wait a minute, I wanted to fix things, we don't have to throw 2 years away. She agreed she didn't want it throw it away either, that she loves me, wants things to work, but doesn't know if she can give me another chance, but would let me know.

 

I told her I wasn't going to be put on the back burner while she checks out other options. Her attitude was basically "I'm not going to go on dates until I give you an answer, but I'm not deleting my profile, and if you don't like it, then feel free to move on". She says she's just talking to people and doesn't really have any intentions to meet anyone.. but we ALL know the low down on POF. She says I should be making an effort to win her back whether she's on the site or not.

 

Part of me says to DROP HER HARD and make my own profile before she abruptly moves on, another part says she's trying to make me jealous and maybe there's still hope. So, how should I proceed?

[Balzac]

Drop the games. Drop her. She's using you. This isn't about love. It's about her inability to respect you. This girl lacks the basic skill set to engage in an adult relationship. Two years is a minor investment compared to investing any time, energy or emotion in waiting for her to kick you to the back burner. She's a toxic event waiting to happen.

 

Redeem your self respect. She'll dawg you until you set a definite boundary. Don't waste time explaining the end to her. Just be done.

[cereal_dater]

Bump. Any more opinions?

 

I do care about her.. but it's tough to sit around knowing she's on a dating site being inundated by men. Even if she claims she doesn't have any intentions to meet anyone until we figure things out.

 

For my own sanity.. I feel like I need to give her a "Me or POF but not both" ultimatum so I can move on one way or another.

[Zahara]

She used the break-up and is using the dating site as an ultimatum. Hoping to scare you into making a move.

[reddragon588]

I hate that term "win me back". A person is not an item to "win". It implies that you possess them. No one owns another person. A relationship is between equals. She is implying that she is more worthy and you must somehow be deserving of her, rather than being equals in the relationship.