She Wants A Break - Never Laid Down Rules

[Hustle10]

I've been dating a girl for a year and I could tell a couple of weeks ago that something was bothering her. Out of the blue she asked if I was happy with our relationship, I said yes and asked why. She played it off as just wondering. I asked several times what was wrong and she kept saying nothing. Then things seemed to get better until we all went out in a group the other night. We got into an argument and I left. I didn't talk to her until the next evening and told her that I was sorry. She texted me saying that she thought we needed a break, to which I responded that sounded a lot like her way of breaking up. She denied this and that's where we left it 2 days ago. I've been NC now for 2 days and don't really want to break NC, but at the same time this whole thing is kind of just left open to interpretation. She didn't put a time frame on this break. My general view on breaks is that it's one of three things, either a way of breaking up if the person is too scared to actually do it, a way to see if something better comes along without losing what you have, or a way to manipulate the other person into doing what you want. That's why I instantly went NC, but now my question is how do I go about clearing this matter up without breaking NC?

[Balzac]

Sorry dude but in my book a break = OVER. She's got communication problems. You can't guess that problems exist!

 

There is nothing to clear up.

[lovelylilly]

So you guys broke up over text? Sounds like a communication problem. You can either talk it out in person and figure out what both of you guys need or you can keep going with NC and just let the whole thing go. What I have learned is to just go with my instincts, but remember the whole "listen with your head and not your heart". This really sucks and I'm sorry you are going through it. I hope everything works out! Best wishes!

[Misfortune]

"Breaks" are essentially a free pass to screw others without consequence. If they haven't found something better after testing the waters, they'll come back and say "break is over".