mimimo Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I got together with my bf July last yr and broke up just before Xmas. He was wooing me for 5mths and he was all sweet and attentive. But after we got together, I realized he wasn’t all that interested in me anymore. Constant fights and cold wars led us to a break up. He prioritize his friends above me too. He continued his life as usual, picking up new hobbies. I guess he moved on pretty well. However,this yr he came looking for me right around his birthday in April. We patched things up and was OK for a while. Well.. until he started being cold and lose interest in me again. We went for trips together and all, but somehow I just can’t seem to be able to connect with him after we patched things up. Before the patch up, we talked and agreed on some ‘ground rules’. Seems like he threw everything out the window once he gotten that second chance.. why is he acting this way? Is the NC rule gonna be of any help with a guy like him? I’ve stopped all contact with him. But he is still on my twitter and I do check out his instagram and twitter alot.. Today is DAY 21 without contacting.. and I realized he locked up his instagram..(I unfollowed him on fb, instagram & twitter when we first broke up.. didn't follow him back after the patch..) Is he moving on? I started to distance myself so I could get him to initiate a conversation and we can talk things out..
StrongLass Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Is he moving on? Considering how it sounds like he wasn't all that invested to begin with, yes. He's not fighting for you because when it comes down to it he doesn't value you enough. Why would he want to REALLY work on things when you keep taking him back/giving him chances after all this bad treatment? LOSE this a**hole and get your self respect back. You're worth more than just an ego stroke.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 He doesn't fight for you because he doesn't really like you. I mean, he sounded pretty indifferent when he was with you. And he knows he doesn't have to fight for you because if he puts out any effort, you'll go running back.
Author mimimo Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Thanks for your replies! I gathered he's not worth it. I just wish for the times we had, & the connection. It was so easy talking to him before.. then it always gets harder and harder.. I guess not having him on FB & Instagram will help. I'll try not to check his twitter too.. But truth is.. its so painful getting over something for the 2nd time. Doesn't help that things are not so rosy at home too. Sometimes, I just need a strong shoulder. Felt like confiding in him a couple of times this week, decided against it though..
Recommended Posts