curiousity Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 (edited) Hey guys, One of my friends, recently met a guy, she had some on and off thing couple years ago. He had been thrilled seeing her again, and talked about many things they could do together and he wanted to introduce her to his life changes.(New job, new home etc) So she passed him her number and she was convinced he would call her. well a couple weeks past, and he hadn't, so she found out, that he has still his old phone number, so she texted him sth short and casual and he hasn't replied. When she told me the story, i could also not understand why he didn't react at all. I knew he was all over her, back then and now she offered him 2 chances and he didn't take any of those. So guys, why is that, you meeting someone again that you had a thing for all the time and now you finally getting your big chance...and you just do nothing. As for a woman, i have never not called somebody, when i told i would. If i had known i wasnt interested, i never took a number. Edited September 25, 2013 by curiousity 1
phineas Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 She got fat or he has a GF. If he was all over her he was looking for the easy lay. He didn't get it so....
HokeyReligions Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Maybe she treated him like crap. Tried to control or manipulate him. I see posts from women on here all the time that are absolutely dismayed when the guy doesn't do exactly what they want or demand of them. Maybe this guy is laughing his butt off somewhere because he gave you, I mean 'her,' a dose of her own medicine. Sounds like he's not that interested.
crederer Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Could be many things. He lost interest. He found someone he likes better. He already had a gf but was trying to cheat. He was turned off by something your friend did. These are just off the top of my head but I could probably make a list 10 times longer if I sat around thinking about it. 2
Guitarisgood Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Now that is a man! Good on him for not caring. A few years can change many things.
Carenth Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I don't know about other guys but generally speaking once I've asked someone out and had being rejected I was not really interested in going out with them if they come back around in the future. It feels like they are going through their "backup" list if they try to come gravitating back into my life which doesn't really associate positive feelings towards that person for me. OP you are assuming guys will be drooling after someone who had rejected them in the past. For a lot of guys with any self respect that is not the case. She has put the ball in his court really expecting him to make the move again. Basically comes down to "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me". He may of decided it was not worth potentially getting rejected again or is simply not interested anymore.
Author curiousity Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 thanks for your answers so far. It was nothing serious back then and they simply lost contact when she moved abroad. But there is still the question, that even if he might have lost interested, why not telling? She probably had ask him out, if he had replied to her text and then could have set it clear. I see the moralities here, i could never do that not telling someone how i see things between each other ,because i believe it's not fair.
ltjg45 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 It's hard to say, really. Perhaps he wasn't thinking clearly and remembered something from his past experience that made him change his mind about contacting her. Now if she has changed weight like other people here has said and that bothered him, I doubt that will result in him asking her for her number at the end so that can be thrown out the window. It's weird though but I will chalk it up to past experiences. It's the same with me. There is a few women locally that initially I want to date but lost all desire to because of past experiences but what makes this weird is because I wouldn't be as excited to meet her again as the way the OP made it out to be.
Author curiousity Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 It is weird indeedly...well i might have come up with sth for that case, she isn't much around due to work. do you think that could what its holding him back? that he wasn't good with the situation couple years ago and now thinks it might have the same outcome?!
ltjg45 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 It is weird indeedly...well i might have come up with sth for that case, she isn't much around due to work. do you think that could what its holding him back? that he wasn't good with the situation couple years ago and now thinks it might have the same outcome?! It's a possibility but does he knows that she is still very busy with work when he re-connected with her? If not, then I don't see how that would stop him from at least contacting her unless he came to that assumption.
Author curiousity Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 they did talk about that, she mentioned he said sth like: you will always be prettier but you're never here. so he knows about that. It's been 2 days since she texted him, no she doesnt know how to behave next time they meet...it's an awkward situation...you think someone is totally in to you and then nothing happens in the end... i told her to just ignore him...but she isn't like that...more outgoing...i hope she's not making a scene.
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