DTNut1928 Posted November 26, 2004 Posted November 26, 2004 I figured since I was feeling kind of whimsical today, I'd sure some of my rather awkward dating experiences that turned sour almost immediately. Feel free to comment on anything you'd like: Experience 1: About 2 years ago, I was starting to date this one girl. She dressed like I did, had the same sense of humour and charm, and loved the Simpsons (which I also do). So we decided to get things started and go to a movie (I forget which one at the moment, but it was something fairly big). We had plans to see a movie, go to lunch afterwards, and see what else might have happened. So, we arrived at the theatre and we were just finishing an interesting discussion on designing soda bottles that we had initiated on the way over. It seemed like we had clicked at that moment and things were looking good. So we reached the ticket counter and I was asked to pay for the tickets. I had no problem with this, considering I was going to pay for the movie anyways. So I pull out my wallet, open it up, and realize nothing was in there. I had immediately remembered why: I had just cashed a paycheck and was about to put it in my wallet, but the phone rang before I could do so. After the phone call, it was nearing time for me to pick this girl up, so I left home thinking I had put my money in my wallet. How wrong I was! So there I was, staring into my wallet and shouting "Hello" into it, only to receive an echo. I told her that I forgot my funds at home and asked if she could pay for the movie (I knew she had money, because she opened her purse and I saw some bills in her wallet). She just gave me this cross look, shook her head, and stomped out the front entrance. I went to chase after her, but she kept walking at a brisk pace towards the direction of her friend's house (which I later found out). I knew that she knew where she was going, so I just let her go. And I have since never saw her again. After that experience, I didn;t know I should have felt sad or relieved. Afterwards, I kind of felt relieved because it was good to know that a girl with an impeccable taste for entertainment could be stingy about her money. I guess it was better off. Experience 2: This happened not too long ago (about a month or so). A friend of a friend of mine was trying to hook me up with one of his female friends. He told her that I was a nice interesting guy who was well worth her time. He then took me to this girl's house wher he introduced me to her. And this girl was bautiful (I mean like Eve Longoria beautiful) and I was wondering why she even wanted anything to do with me. We got into a decent group discussion about common things, like friends, life, and even a topic I brought forth on computerized voting. I figured the entire neeting had been decent, but I didn't feel that any progress would have been made. So we're about to leave the house where she gives the usual friend hug to her friend (or my friend of a friend) and he waits outside. I tell her I had a nice time meeting her and reached out to shake her hand (it's a thing I do so as not to come off too strong for someone I had met not 45 minutes ago). She reached out her hand, but then pulled it back and said: "Oh, what the hell?!" and gave me a giant hug. She then said asked em if I wanted to start a relationship with her. Being the wanton that I am, I immediately affirmed this offer. So she gave me her house number, and I gave her my home and cell number. I get home feeling a sense of affirmation and decided to just take it easy for the rest of the day. I had not been home for an hour when the same girl calls me at home and tells me she wants me to take her to dinner after she gets out of work the next day (which was tomorrow then). I agreed, so she gave me the location of her workplace, which was a jewler's shop in a suburb not 15 minutes from me. I had a little trouble with the directions, since I had never been to the place, but it was around enough major streets in the area so that I could find it if not by strategy, then at least by pure luck. So the next day, I didn't have work or school, so I was ready take on the day. I had planned to pick her up from work, have her change clothes at my house (she apparently had to wear some kind of conservative clothing, since she worked in a jeweler's store), and then we'd go out for dinner and see where the evening took us. I arrived at the jeweler's store at about 2:50 and waited for her to come out (she had said in the previous phone conversation to expect her between 3 and 5 o'clock, since she wasn't sure if she was working overtime or what-not). I sat and waited in my car during those hours, and only customers came out of that store, and not her. I was getting kind of unsettled: Here I was preparing for a date and I'm waiting for her to come out of the store. Like an idiot, I continued to wait until about 6 o'clock that evening and still nothing. It was only after I actually got OUT of the car and walked into the store myself and asked a clerk if she was around. She said that she had left earlier in the day. I sat there for three hours and I din;t see anyone resmbling her leave the premises (well, there was this time period of about 5 minutes where I was reclined in my car, listening to cool song with my eyes closed). I suppose that during those 5 minutes, she could have left the store, found my car, and knocked on the window so I could have opened my eyes. Feeling a tad rejected, I decided to make some calls. I called her house, but no one was home. After about 10 minutes and another call home, I decided to just go home and ponder my next move (for some reason, I though I was playing a psycholigcal game of chess). No sooner had I decided to go home, she decided to call me on my cell. I ansmwered it immediately and asked what was going on. She told me that she had talked to her mom about going out with me and they both agreed that she shouldn't. I asked her why, but again, I got the same thing repeated again. I kind of took it at that point, but I had to nerve to ask her where she went during that time I waited and how she left the store. She then told me that she tried to look for my car, but couldn't find me, so she called for a ride. I didn't buy this explanation, but figured I was getting nowhere. I agreed that we shouldn't date and I haven't spoken with her since. I found out later from my friend of a friend that she got out of work at 2 that day and spent the day with one of her guy friends. Apparently, things got serious between the two of them and they "occupied themselves" for the rest of that day. She remebered that we had a date and called me to make a lame excuse about her mother not liking this and blah, blah, blah. I guess it was for the better because apprently, she now has a boyfriend (or kind of always has had one, but nothing serious) and is happy I guess. In the meantime, I am still feeling the chill of rejection from that last encounter, but I am trying to move on gracefully. That's all for tonight. I have more, but those two really stick out of my head right now. Good night!!
dd1463 Posted November 26, 2004 Posted November 26, 2004 WoW.... Those are just great! Some women are just evil
theedge Posted November 26, 2004 Posted November 26, 2004 I think a lot of people have been in a similar situation. To be honest all my life I never got anywhere with girls. 1 girl I met online asked me out, it was my 1st date ever. She told me to meet her at a certain spot and to call when I got there if she wasn't there. I got there at 5:45 for a 6pm meeting. I didn't want to seem eager so I didn't call right away when I couldnt see her. Called at 6:10 and of course there was no answer. waited another 5 min and called again still no answer. By 7pm I knew there was no point in waiting, not to mention I was meeting her down town and I was in the burbs so it was going to be a long and depressing 2 hour trip home. When I got home I logged on to MSN and she wasn't online, but when I logged on to the dating site we use she was on there. I send her a message and she logged off and I didn't see her on MSN for days so I knew she blocked me. I finally got a hold of her through the dating site and she used a lame excuse that she got nervous and was affraid a call to cancel would upset me. Ha! I never figure people's logic instead of calling and politely canceling they leave you waiting at a destination they have no plan on showing up at. I guess back then I just really wanted someone so I let it go and we continued chatting. about 2 weeks later she called me at 11pm asking to meet her somewhere. I know people would think "Hell no!" specially at that hour. I agreed and we did meet. I met her at a bar and found her personality acting unusual. Well on closer inspection I found out she was tanked. It never lasted past 1 date anyway we were too different. It took me 30 years of users, shallow and materialistic people to meet my current girlfriend. Personally I gave up on dating and not coming on so strong helped me keep cool when I met her. Keep at it and good luck!
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