selfimprovement Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 This girl and I went on two dates five months ago. On the second date, I thought we were getting really close. Spent the night at her place, cuddling but no sex. After that, she started being "unavailable" all the time. A few weeks later, she called me and said, "I don't think I can date anyone at the moment. I would just like to be friends." She had all these excuses. I think we kinda got tired of talking to each other eventually and stopped contacting each other. Two weeks ago, she randomly texted me out of the blue and suggested that we go out for drinks. I agreed to it, and I am seeing her tomorrow night (unless either one of us cancels on the other person). I don't know what her intentions are. Even if she sees me differently now and wants to date me, I won't give her a chance. I just don't think we would make a good couple, and she's turned me down before. However, I would love to have a one night stand or be her fwb because I still find her very attractive physically. I'm hoping that's what she wants as well. So, I need a solid game plan for tomorrow. Help me out here!
Carenth Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 It may turn out that way but don't get your hopes up. She may be contacting you again because she needs someone to stroke her ego (for whatever reason) and nothing else. Personally I would of being asking her why she suddenly wants to meet again all of a sudden rather than going in blind. Depending on the answer I would choose to proceed or not. When this has happened to me in the past it has been the scenario I described above so I politely declined.
phineas Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Yeah, what he said. I always see what they want with me. also, I don't sleep with women i'm not sleeping with. Cuddling all night without sex? Son...... 2
crederer Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 She friendzoned you and now wants drinks? Probably the same way she'd go out with her girlfriend for a drunk.
Guitarisgood Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Selfimprovement - Ego booster 2.0. Sorry to be so blunt mate. I've been in your scenario before and while your mind will play and make any and every excuse to think things will work out, it won't. She will just be using you because all her other options are busy. Now it is time for you to have some fun and turn things on her. Be nice and make up a random excuse about bailing and watch her hamster wheel spin. If she does try to organise another time, then that may be a miraculous maybe but otherwise it's time to show you have a better life and am above a girl that jsut wanted to be friends. 2
phineas Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Selfimprovement - Ego booster 2.0. Sorry to be so blunt mate. I've been in your scenario before and while your mind will play and make any and every excuse to think things will work out, it won't. She will just be using you because all her other options are busy. Now it is time for you to have some fun and turn things on her. Be nice and make up a random excuse about bailing and watch her hamster wheel spin. If she does try to organise another time, then that may be a miraculous maybe but otherwise it's time to show you have a better life and am above a girl that jsut wanted to be friends. been here also & when I asked them what they wanted, made it clear it was a date & we were in fact going to kiss at the end.....they flaked. LOL! Not that it mattered because i knew they would.
coolheadal Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Your still in the "SO CALLED FRIEND ZONE" So sure if you want to go out for drinks but don't pay for her drink and you tell her you won't? Because we're just FRIENDS nothing else period. To me a girl like this just a tease, you can do better seriously just don't put up with her nonsense. Got to pull yourself together and don't fall into your web! Good luck. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Sounds like her options fizzled out and now she's feeling quite lonely and in need of validation.
paigej91 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Honestly, you can only go through with it and see what happens. It may not even be clear after you see her what she wants. With women it's hard to tell sometimes if she wants to keep it casual or if she sees you differently now.
Chicago_Guy Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Sounds like her options fizzled out and now she's feeling quite lonely and in need of validation. I agree - she probably just got dumped. She kind of liked the OP in the beginning, but liked someone else better. Now that is over, so she wants to meet for a drink. If I were the OP, I would meet her for a drink, but I would not pay for her drinks. Don't be a bitch especially after she essentially rejected you months ago!
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