fatheroftwins Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 (edited) I have been seeing a girl for 3 months, we hit it off really good. I was going through divorce, she even went as far as asking me to move in. Well 3 months into it we break up, she says she does not trust me and never will (long story). A week after we break up she is sending me texts that she wants to see me to say "goodbye" one last time. This happened for 2 days and she even said she couldn't live without me. I am 33 and she is 30 never married, no kids, blah blah. Well then she says she needs space, I gave her two days and I sent her a text asking if she would like to go to dinner the following week she said she had plans. I did not speak to her for a week, she then sends me a text saying she missed my twin sons. We never saw each other again and then like a week later I reached out to her to ask her about some stuff I left at her house, her phone says not a working number. We told each other we loved each other, we got along great and everything. I guess I am really upset of why she would just do that. I mean I have emails from when she was out of town less than a month ago from the breakup that she couldn't wait to marry me down the road and couldn't wait to build our lives together. Now I just look back and have so many questions? My counselor says she has seen her type and will contact me again even if she did all these things to cut me out of her life??? I just want to be strong if she does but I also feel like I have a false sense of something happening. We did break up once before and we had no contact for a week and she posted on facebook "true love doesn't have a happy ending, true love has no ending" and of course I contacted her and we got back together. This time boom she is done and blocked me on facebook. I guess I just wonder why she said all of those things and then just cut off completely?? Edited September 24, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Ah hun....you only knew her 3 months, you never got to know her on a truely deep level. It was infatuation stage...rainbows and kittens...and no one really allows another to see who they are. You have no idea who she really is/was to answer your questions. We are all so broken, and our brokenness manifests in a whole host of ways. I am sorry this happened to you. 3
Author fatheroftwins Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Ah hun....you only knew her 3 months, you never got to know her on a truely deep level. It was infatuation stage...rainbows and kittens...and no one really allows another to see who they are. You have no idea who she really is/was to answer your questions. We are all so broken, and our brokenness manifests in a whole host of ways. I am sorry this happened to you. That is what everyone else is telling me. I guess my confidence is so low right now that its just something to hold on to. I have gotten rid of everything that reminds me of her..... Hopefully it will go away soon! 2
OJ loved Nicole Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I guess I just wonder why she said all of those things and then just cut off completely?? Because there is someone else (99.9% probability). How do I know you ask? If you were "the one" to her, she would've never split. If I am truly in love with the woman of my dreams, why would I ever leave. Don't over-think it, it really is that simple!! Don't get upset because this is good news!!! Now you won't have to be with a wishy-washy woman who's broken up with you twice in 3 months!! Pssst, real men ain't gotz time for that noise! :-)
Author fatheroftwins Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Because there is someone else (99.9% probability). How do I know you ask? If you were "the one" to her, she would've never split. If I am truly in love with the woman of my dreams, why would I ever leave. Don't over-think it, it really is that simple!! Don't get upset because this is good news!!! Now you won't have to be with a wishy-washy woman who's broken up with you twice in 3 months!! Pssst, real men ain't gotz time for that noise! :-) Yeah my counselor said that is probably the case, but when that falls flat she will contact me again! I am not playing that game.....
JoelBarish Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 That is what everyone else is telling me. I guess my confidence is so low right now that its just something to hold on to. I have gotten rid of everything that reminds me of her..... Hopefully it will go away soon! It takes a long time to REALLY find out who someone. Turns out it took me a year and a half and now I feel like I am dealing with a whole new person.
Author fatheroftwins Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 pretty sure since she cut me off she has someone else to get her mind off me... Its all good though, I don't want to be with someone that insecure. 1
OJ loved Nicole Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Yeah my counselor said that is probably the case, but when that falls flat she will contact me again! I am not playing that game..... She might, and you might. Just remember that if she contacts you again (given her actions) she is nothing more than a sex toy to you. You don't seek LDR's with women who act this way. She has disqualified herself as potential wife material, and those women are ONLY invited over after going to the bar with your friends. Hump'em and dump'em...... until you meet one worth keeping. 1
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