adidadi129 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Long story short, I've know this guy for about 7 months, we like each other and spend time when we can. Well, recently I went to his house, met his mom, hanged outside and he kissed me alot. He would look into my eyes with love and took me home and kissed me before I left, now after that, he's been acting weird like if we never kissed. Maybe I was expecting him to tell me the next morning that he enjoyed my company and sweet things but he did not. Usually he textes me Good morning when he wakes up and we talk throughout the day, but after that day, I have to be the one initiating the good mornings and so on. I dont know if I should tell him something because well we aren't a couple so I don't want him to think I'm trying to control his life, but I just want to know where I stand. He is a very handsome guy and has a lot of girls after him. I don't know what to do help.
sickpuppy Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Long story short, I've know this guy for about 7 months, we like each other and spend time when we can. Well, recently I went to his house, met his mom, hanged outside and he kissed me alot. He would look into my eyes with love and took me home and kissed me before I left, now after that, he's been acting weird like if we never kissed. Maybe I was expecting him to tell me the next morning that he enjoyed my company and sweet things but he did not. Usually he textes me Good morning when he wakes up and we talk throughout the day, but after that day, I have to be the one initiating the good mornings and so on. I dont know if I should tell him something because well we aren't a couple so I don't want him to think I'm trying to control his life, but I just want to know where I stand. He is a very handsome guy and has a lot of girls after him. I don't know what to do help. He sounds like he knows just how to play women right. He let's them play themselves mostly due to his looks and having a bunch liking him. So who can blame him? The issue is you are investing more than he is. He is throwing you tidbits of "hope" and pulling back. You know he's good looking, so does he, you know other girls like him so does he. So it's easier for him to have you invest more than he does. Think of it like a casino. You can keep putting money in the slot machine over and over hoping to score the grand prize jackpot..yet it may never come. You can either continue to let yourself get played and keep on investing more and more hoping for that "jackpot payout" while winding up a becoming an addicted "degenerate gambler" who's wasted more of your time than it's worth or you can call it a day/ good try and move on. The choice is yours. Those who truly like us won't confuse us.
Author adidadi129 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 That is very true. The bad thing here is that I fell hard for him, but what would you suggest I do? Should I stop talking to him, ignore him, or just act like I dont care and not show any emotions?
PinkCarnations Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Act like the kissing hasn't affected you. Do your own thing, and he'll come around. Do NOT ask where you guys stand. Men don't respond to words. They respond to no contact.
Author adidadi129 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Act like the kissing hasn't affected you. Do your own thing, and he'll come around. Do NOT ask where you guys stand. Men don't respond to words. They respond to no contact. I haven't mentioned to him anything about the kiss because he hasn't so I'm trying to just do my own thing and well the no contact would probably be best. I just need to learn how to not fall so quick. Do you suggest if he does text me to act like nothing is wrong as if I am not mad?
PinkCarnations Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I haven't mentioned to him anything about the kiss because he hasn't so I'm trying to just do my own thing and well the no contact would probably be best. I just need to learn how to not fall so quick. Do you suggest if he does text me to act like nothing is wrong as if I am not mad? How long have you guys been dating? You mentioned that he is your crush, so I'm assuming he is not your boyfriend and you two are not exclusive. Therefore, voicing that you're mad may overwhelm him since he probably won't notice he did anything wrong. Just practice self-control and keep your distance - basically, act the way he acts toward you! Don't completely act like "nothing's wrong" because you don't want to condone bad behavior. If he takes forever and a day to reply to you, then take just as long to reply back if not longer. Hang out with your girlfriends, and look dolled up (or really cute) when you go out even if it's just girls night out. If he cares, he will feel like he needs to make you exclusive or someone else may snatch you away. Basically the trick is to show your interest.. but your interest is conditional. Have a walk away mentality. If he doesn't treat you well, then you can easily lose your interest in him...
Author adidadi129 Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 I've known him for 7 months, we technically haven't been dating per say. We've gone out, hung out at his home but he respects me. I just can't stand the fact that so many girls like him & I try to not tell him anything about these girls but I wanna make him see he doesnt need another girl. Today I did not text him and his phone was disconnected so is it right for me to not txt him? I guess I'm just keeping my spsce from him hoping he'll look for me.
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