Blueyesncurls Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Exbf just turned 50, I just turned 35. 5 years together and yes it was a drama roller coaster. We had insane chemistry and I LOVED him. He broke up with me twice and cried begged to come back which I always did. We never lived together. So last time we have sex was 7/15... He tells me on phone 7/18 he has a new gf and tells me I need to grow up and move on. Ok...pretty cruel way to end 5 years but....it is what it is. I find out on 8/30 that his new gf is completely moved in with him. Why? How? How do you hurt someone after 5 years like that? And why fly at Mach speed into such a VERY serious new relationship? I'm so lost
Philosoraptor Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Don't compare yourself with what he has going on now. Concentrate on the facts. You were in a drama filled relationship for 5 years with someone who couldn't commit. He rebounded into a new relationship and is a genuinely cruel person. You lost nothing here, in fact, you gained the opportunity to find someone mature and respectful.
Author Blueyesncurls Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 I'm not really comparing and I know it's for the best but I can't wrap my brain around the logic??? How and why? He won't talk or give me closure. I just want to understand so I can put it to rest
Philosoraptor Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 You will never get closure from another person. The more you dig into their life and ask questions, the more confused and hurt you are going to be. If you want closure it needs to come from within. With acceptance and making peace within about this situation. 1
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