coolheadal Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Women will expect not to be asked their age out of courtesy. And many will lie about it. Funny how that works. True, but you still can ask them. If you don't? Then it sits on your mind all day long. You could look at their ID, DL, passport an etc.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 It's supersmall, I can't see anything... That's what she said! lol. I don't know how to make the pic any bigger or blow it up on here.
PlumPrincess Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 That's what she said! lol. I don't know how to make the pic any bigger or blow it up on here. You can put one up in an album that only your contacts can see and then add me as your contact. Or you put it up in a public album so that everyone on this thread can decide.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Ew youre 44 and hitting on girls in their early 20's? Id run from the hills from you and Im 25. Guys that old trying to get with young girls are shallow and lacking in character. Guess the women your own age arent hot enough or good enough. RedRobin nailed it in my opinion. No actually. I kindof had to. I thought she was older and she must've thought I was younger as I was asked by someone else who works with her my age. She thought I was 34. Same person who had asked me if I liked the 23 year old whom I knew for a few months since she started. (Just BSing.) We had a conversation that she repeated she was doing nothing labor day twice and went silent smiling at me. At that point I had to ask for her number and possibly to go out on labor day. She gave it to me and seemed fine till she found out my real age I guess. Then ignored me. We never went out labor day as I had something to do anyway and set up other plans but now never went out as she must've been tol my real age when I told the other lady who worked with her when asked. (At the time I'd thought she was like 28 at least.)
Author sickpuppy Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 You can put one up in an album that only your contacts can see and then add me as your contact. Or you put it up in a public album so that everyone on this thread can decide. There's an album feature on here? If not frig it. lol
PlumPrincess Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 There's an album feature on here? If not frig it. lol I guess, the feature is not activated yet. You also don't seem to be able to receive messages yet. Oh, the mystery...
madjac74 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Id run from the hills from you and Im 25. Ummm what does that mean? You would run downhill away from him? And being 25 entitles you to what? Living in the hills? Obviously intelligence has no age.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 I guess, the feature is not activated yet. You also don't seem to be able to receive messages yet. Oh, the mystery... I'm on some sort of probabtionary period I guess. lol. Are you a 23 year old who's going to tell me it's over with for me? LOL. I bombed out with a 28 year old too. (that one oh lawd..) I think I may just have to call it a day and chase baggage. The 28 year old I literally felt like a little boy when she gave me a polite excuse (it was true) but waited till last minute (and after the date passed to tell me as I didn't ask when I felt she wasn't interested in the first place.) Kindof like you don't want to go to a wedding. You get sick. And really are. But you don't say anything till the last minute and explain in more detail afterwards. Like the legit excuse but you do it in a way to make yourself look good, not hurt feelings but let the person know at the same time to not bother. lol
GorillaTheater Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Ummm what does that mean? You would run downhill away from him? And being 25 entitles you to what? Living in the hills? Obviously intelligence has no age. I for one have had just about enough of her anti-topographical bigotry. 1
Author sickpuppy Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Ew youre 44 and hitting on girls in their early 20's? Id run from the hills from you and Im 25. Guys that old trying to get with young girls are shallow and lacking in character. Guess the women your own age arent hot enough or good enough. RedRobin nailed it in my opinion. And just because you're 25 that means I'd be interested in you in the first place? LMAO. I don't just chase around younger chicks. Believe it or not a few do come on to me. Like it or not.
Author sickpuppy Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 25...meaning Im close to the age of the girl who ran from him as well. Ohhh man. SOOOOO many sexist men, bigotry from men on this site...cannot handle a woman who doesn't stroke your ego all the time. A 44 year old guy hitting on a 23 year old is disgusting. Hey Gorilla- have you ever thought us women get tired of all the insanely shallow sexist crap ("bigotry" as you call it) that permeates this site? Or am I supposed to accept it while being called a bad person for insinuating 1/4th of what men post on this site on a daily basis? Oh wait...its OK for a guy to do this stuff and to be a woman hater...but not the other way around. To me it's fine if she's not interested. I thought she was older, we got along good at work. The girl would shyly ALWAYS look at me, smile, talk to me and her direct co-workers asked ME my age and if I liked her. Hell half the people I work with even AFTER I tell them my age forget and think I'm like in my 30s. A lot of them ask me to go out with them and hang out in groups etc. They aren't asking anyone else. I'm not trying to come off as some hot shot or a pervert either. I was going to take her out for drinks and a ride to NYC to see one world trade. Walk around then go home. I have a job. Then again if I was a creep I would've lied about my age, and hung out with her immediately when she mentioned TWICE in a row smiling and going silent after she told ME she was doing nothing labor day. I'm not some older clown going around asking out every young chick.
todreaminblue Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I dont see the point about lying about my age i am 44 if i was interested in a guy i would be thinking long term so he would know regardless, theres no use lying...... if a guy had a problem with my age that is his choice.......and his choice should be respected so lying about a age to keep a guy...........lying at the start is a recipe for disaster and a false image that you have to live up to...i can hardly live up to my own image let alone a fake one......i will stick to one and keep it simple ....its just nah not done......deb
Mascara Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I don't mean this in a rude way, but you do look your age. And there's nothing wrong with that. I think it's more that, like me, you can probably get away with knocking a few years off and people wouldn't double-take. At 42, I think I could lie and say "37" and get away with it. It doesn't mean I look 37, just that for many people there's a window they can get away with. Most 23 year olds don't know the whole range of what 44 looks like. Maybe their dad is 49 and they just associate that the 40-something number just comes under "old". To me, as a woman roughly your age - you don't look different to most others your / our age. Last year, I briefly dated someone who was 51. His big thing was how young he believed he looked. It came up in every topic. I met him, he looked 51. Again, he had a window of about 5 years, if he told me he was 47 I would have thought - ok. But equally, when he told me 51, I thought - ok. He did not look the 35 he insisted he did. I'm not sure why he'd want to. 3
Author sickpuppy Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 I don't mean this in a rude way, but you do look your age. And there's nothing wrong with that. I think it's more that, like me, you can probably get away with knocking a few years off and people wouldn't double-take. At 42, I think I could lie and say "37" and get away with it. It doesn't mean I look 37, just that for many people there's a window they can get away with. Most 23 year olds don't know the whole range of what 44 looks like. Maybe their dad is 49 and they just associate that the 40-something number just comes under "old". To me, as a woman roughly your age - you don't look different to most others your / our age. Last year, I briefly dated someone who was 51. His big thing was how young he believed he looked. It came up in every topic. I met him, he looked 51. Again, he had a window of about 5 years, if he told me he was 47 I would have thought - ok. But equally, when he told me 51, I thought - ok. He did not look the 35 he insisted he did. I'm not sure why he'd want to. I hear you. But I know several people younger than me whom look older than me. People even think I'm younger than my younger brothers. I can tell if people are just putting on BS and stroking your ego. I've gotten it from many dudes too. Half the 27 year old dudes invite me out to go places. When you get the SAME people you've worked with asking you then later on asking you after a few weeks how old you are...you know they don't believe it. I can tell if someone asked once and BS'd about it but telling them again and again various people..I know I look younger than 44. Hell most people I graduated with look horrible.
Mascara Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I agree, lots of people look waaaay older than they are. I know a 40 year old woman who looks 60. I asked you a question earlier, would you date a 50 year old woman who looked 35?
BikerAccnt Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 I agree, lots of people look waaaay older than they are. I know a 40 year old woman who looks 60. I asked you a question earlier, would you date a 50 year old woman who looked 35? Don't know about him but.. I would!! But then again. I'm 53 2
Skyraider829 Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Well what's more important - a number that measures how many days you have been here since you were born, or the qualities of the person, and the very person him or herself? Chronological age is just one form of "age", which is the one everyone hypes over - there are other types like social age and physiological age as well. So not dating or dating someone just because of a calendar date seems shallow and narrow-minded. Like with me, I'm not talking dating here but I grew up mainly around adults ever since a young age and most of my friends, and the people I get along were born 20-35 years before I was. I have a couple that are younger. Why? I just mingle with them better. One of my best friends is 46, the other is 19, another is 49 and the other is 34. I could give a hoot about age, its the person that counts.
Mascara Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 I don't think having an age preference is a bad thing in itself, I said recently that I have a range I prefer too. I just think that sometimes the reasons given, along with a frustration that the poster can't find someone in that range, answers its own question - for example, here the OP says that he shouldn't have to settle for someone his own age because he looks and feels so much younger.... completely not getting that he expects his "target market" to settle by dating him. Apparently, the idea that 30 year olds might not want to date 44 year olds has gone over his head a bit. I don't mean all the above to appear rude. I just think the OP can probably answer his own question as to why women aren't interested when they discover his real age. 1
Skyraider829 Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Ew youre 44 and hitting on girls in their early 20's? Unless you've been hiding under your bed, that happens quite a bit - no offense meant. That also sounds really shallow. Id run from the hills from you and Im 25. Guys that old trying to get with young girls are shallow and lacking in character. Guess the women your own age arent hot enough or good enough That's a tremendous generalization you're making. Not true in all cases contrary to rumor and rant. Some people, chronological differences aside, click very well both physically and intellectually. Someone can have a twenty, even a thirty year difference and get along very well. Is it really common? Probably not. I'm not too sure what the statistics are on it. Some older guys do seek out younger gals for those "other" reasons, true - but some are pursued by the younger woman. This can be rather common. And older women sometimes seek out younger men, a lot younger sometimes for either physical reasons or a real relationship. It depends on the people in question. It would be funny if for one whole year, two people whom are attracted to one other were allowed to date and build a strong relationship without knowing which year they born in, and see if after one year of nothing but the best, the DOB's were released. Would it affect the relationship negatively or positively? It depends on the people.
Mascara Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 Two people getting along and being attracted to each other regardless of age is one thing. Deliberately seeking out only women on the basis of them being significantly younger is another, and is indeed shallow. Not saying shallowness is always a terrible thing, we are all shallow to a certain extent. But it still is.
kaylan Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 (edited) How many of you men and women lie about your age in order to improve your odds with the opposite sex? I'm not talking about OLD either. I'm talking about in real life. I'm 44 but have been told I look around 34, dress well, hardly any gray hair, work out etc. I'm pretty honest and it seems it bites me in the azz. I usually get girls like as low as 23 and up flirting with me but as soon as most women hear 44 they take off. (They sometimes ask or I just tell them.) Do any or most of you lie about your age to other people you date or would like to? Why cant you go for women near your age who wont have a problem dating someone your age? Younger girls take off because they are in a different life stage then you and likely want someone they can relate to better...which tends to be guys nearer to their age.I never had children and consequently have been told I look considerably younger (ten to fifteen years) younger than I am. I am now approaching 50 and still have guys in their mid-30s hitting on me. I never lied about it when I was doing online dating. Age was never something worth lying about because I was interested in guys considerably older anyway. No offense to the mothers out there...but child bearing does seem to accelerate changes in a womans body that we tend to associate with age. However, there are certain women who just bounce back well and stay on top of their appearance for years to come despite being mothers. Edited September 26, 2013 by kaylan
mesmerized Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 That's the problem. I can't lie. And I do look like I'm 34. I can tell when I tell many people my age they just stare like holy crap are you kidding me? 44?? As of last year I was getting multiple people thinking I was 27 and guessing that age almost all the time. As soon as most women hear 44 it's a WRAP. lol I prefer late twenties the lowest up to mid 30's as I don't have any kids, never been married, work two jobs, have my bills paid off, no other baggage etc. and don't feel I should settle for "what people my age should get". Almost like feeling I have to date down when I myself don't offer anything of low value. (Best way I can word it. Not trying to come off like some pomous azz. lol) You're a 44 yeah old with a snobby mirror pic as his avatar who frequently uses the word "azz" in his posts. Me thinks you are overestimating what you have to offer. 3
BikerAccnt Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 LOL IM SHALLOW? Yeah a 44yearold hitting on a 23 year old is shallow! Good lord where are people with actual sense! Yeah it does occur a lot...because men are very shallow creatures and prioritize ****ability over all other qualities in a woman. Sorry to be blunt but its the truth! Keira, I generally agree with what you say, but generalizing about all men as shallow creatures is just about as bad as us generalizing about all women being shallow because when young women go after older men, it's for the money. That's pretty shallow to no?
veggirl Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 I have never lied about my age. I'm 30. I have a twin sister who lied about her age at work cause they guessed like 23, so I think she said 25 or something....then it was our birthday and she couldn't remember what age she was supposed to be turning I would never date a guy in his 40s, not even late 30s. I like guys around my age, like within 4 years either way. So even if a guy looked 28, if he really was 40, I'd not go for it. I don't have enough in common with someone 10 years older than me and I like people who are in the same stage of life as me. My older sister is 4 years older than me, I wouldn't date older than her. Lying seems pointless. date people who are okay with your age. if you aren't okay with dating people your OWN age, OP, why would people YOUNGER than you be okay with dating someone your age? Like....the logic fails. I am NOT surprised 20somethings aren't interested in a mid 40s man. The only (few) girls I knew in my early 20s who dated middle aged men were girls with major issues and/or girls who were looking for some $. 3
Imported Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 (edited) If they ask, I tell them. If they don't ask, I don't tell them. If they look under 25, I tell them even if they don't ask. If they act like they are under 25, I don't go near them. Young & attractive (no, you're not attractive just because you're young) or old & attractive.....I don't randomly go up to girls. If I try to start something up with a girl, 9+ times out of 10 I already feel assured that they are interested in me. In my experience, girls usually Google my name. Research gets done. Some are better than others, but usually age is easy to find. I leave it there and make it easy for them if they wanted to know without asking. Edited September 26, 2013 by Imported
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