Lying about your age to improve your odds?

[sickpuppy]

How many of you men and women lie about your age in order to improve your odds with the opposite sex? I'm not talking about OLD either. I'm talking about in real life.

 

I'm 44 but have been told I look around 34, dress well, hardly any gray hair, work out etc. I'm pretty honest and it seems it bites me in the azz. I usually get girls like as low as 23 and up flirting with me but as soon as most women hear 44 they take off. (They sometimes ask or I just tell them.)

 

Do any or most of you lie about your age to other people you date or would like to?

[coolheadal]

This all depends. Guys lie because they don't want to feel too out of the game. No one can guess my real age anyway. I let them think what they want. I still get carded and when they see my age they get shocked!

 

If your 44 of age and look 34, but you date 20 years younger than you? This is your problem you need to stick with the 10 to 15 years younger limit. So find someone in there late 20s to mid 30s.

 

Also not always about age, it's about you and what makes up you that counts. If they leave you because of your age then you can do better!

[BikerAccnt]

I don't. I figure, why? If you don't like me for who I am, age included, that's up to you, not me. I turn 53 this week. I'm not shy about much, including my age. As they say, it is what it is. I've been married, divorced, lived with someone and all around the block. Age is just a number. People shouldn't be afraid to admit they've lived a bit.

 

Besides, do I really want to date someone 15 years or more younger than me? Even 10 years is pushing the range I am comfortable with.

 

Another good reason is something my nephew said to me once a while ago. He was only about 20 at the time. The family was together for some function or another and of course all of the women around my age and older were telling my brother and myself that we were so handsome and didn't look anything like our ages...blah ..blah...you know the gig.

 

So my smart ass nephew comes up and busts my balls saying..."You don't believe that crap do you? Trust me, to anyone younger, you look your age.

 

So, I never lie about my age.

[mtber75]

This all depends. Guys lie because they don't want to feel too out of the game. No one can guess my real age anyway. I let them think what they want. I still get carded and when they see my age they get shocked!

 

If your 44 of age and look 34, but you date 20 years younger than you? This is your problem you need to stick with the 10 to 15 years younger limit. So find someone in there late 20s to mid 30s.

 

Also not always about age, it's about you and what makes up you that counts. If they leave you because of your age then you can do better!

 

 

I know that Women lie about their age on OLD all the time. But I guess men do it too. But if your confident in yourself this really shouldn't be a problem. This commenter is right in that your might be look for someone too young!

[CarrieT]

I never had children and consequently have been told I look considerably younger (ten to fifteen years) younger than I am. I am now approaching 50 and still have guys in their mid-30s hitting on me.

 

I never lied about it when I was doing online dating.

 

Age was never something worth lying about because I was interested in guys considerably older anyway.

[Peanut9330]

I rather not lie but I have been lied to on a few occasions about the age and I didn't appreciate it. I rather know right away because it's not the age that would scare me off but the dishonesty. Relationships need to be built on trust so even an innocent white lie can lead to bigger issues.

[FitChick]

I always lie. If you are going to lie, you have to LOOK the lie. If you look like Father Time or Granny on the Beverly Hillbillies and say you are 35, no one will believe you.

[GorillaTheater]

I always lie.

 

Why bother with lying about it? What's the point?

 

I'm proud of my age. I totally rock being elderly.

[sickpuppy]

I always lie. If you are going to lie, you have to LOOK the lie. If you look like Father Time or Granny on the Beverly Hillbillies and say you are 35, no one will believe you.

 

 

That's the problem. I can't lie. And I do look like I'm 34. I can tell when I tell many people my age they just stare like holy crap are you kidding me? 44?? As of last year I was getting multiple people thinking I was 27 and guessing that age almost all the time. As soon as most women hear 44 it's a WRAP. lol

 

I prefer late twenties the lowest up to mid 30's as I don't have any kids, never been married, work two jobs, have my bills paid off, no other baggage etc. and don't feel I should settle for "what people my age should get". Almost like feeling I have to date down when I myself don't offer anything of low value. (Best way I can word it. Not trying to come off like some pomous azz. lol)

[PlumPrincess]

That's the problem. I can't lie. And I do look like I'm 34. I can tell when I tell many people my age they just stare like holy crap are you kidding me? 44?? As of last year I was getting multiple people thinking I was 27 and guessing that age almost all the time. As soon as most women hear 44 it's a WRAP. lol

 

I prefer late twenties the lowest up to mid 30's as I don't have any kids, never been married, work two jobs, have my bills paid off, no other baggage etc. and don't feel I should settle for "what people my age should get". Almost like feeling I have to date down when I myself don't offer anything of low value. (Best way I can word it. Not trying to come off like some pomous azz. lol)

Without a picture, you can tell anything on the internet. I have only once seen a guy who looked really, really young. His profile said 38 and he looked liked he was in his twenties. But everybody else just looks his damn age. And it's so bad that I'm entertaining the theory right now that most guys on the internet lie about their age and that's why most look too old for their supposed age.

[StanMusial]

How many of you men and women lie about your age in order to improve your odds with the opposite sex? I'm not talking about OLD either. I'm talking about in real life.

 

I'm 44 but have been told I look around 34, dress well, hardly any gray hair, work out etc. I'm pretty honest and it seems it bites me in the azz. I usually get girls like as low as 23 and up flirting with me but as soon as most women hear 44 they take off. (They sometimes ask or I just tell them.)

 

Do any or most of you lie about your age to other people you date or would like to?

 

I have the opposite problem. I look a few years younger or so I'm told and on occasion I've had women come on to me when they found out my real age. They probably thought I was too young before I told them. None of it was OLD, this all happened at work or some social event.

[BBR84]

I wouldn't lie. Basing a relationship (assuming that's what you're going for) on a lie is a bad idea. It will likely weigh on you and create unnecessary angst. Not to mention, how would you feel if she lied to you?

 

I would avoid the topic of age and let chemistry develop as it may. If it's an absolute issue to her and she can't handle your age, then you probably don't want to be with her. I've dated women 6 or 7 years older than me for awhile before we even asked each other's age. They were more fun and sexy than women with the same age difference in the opposite direction.

[Mascara]

 

I prefer late twenties the lowest up to mid 30's as I don't have any kids, never been married, work two jobs, have my bills paid off, no other baggage etc. and don't feel I should settle for "what people my age should get".

 

Well, those 20-somethings also don't feel like they should settle, that's why they take off when they find your real age.

 

Would you date a woman who was 50 but looked 35?

 

Good luck if you can get those younger women, but the pool is going to be limited - for exactly the reasons you gave for not wanting to settle. In my 20s I did prefer older men, but not many women do. (And now in my early 40s, my kids are grown up and I've got my own business. Unless you want kids, women under 35 are a bad idea for men over 40. They either want kids or have a young family).

[MrCastle]

No need. I'm 25.

 

Young enough to get girls in my age group, old enough to get the cougars without them feeling weird about it.

 

Woulnd't lie about my age anyway. It's just a number.

[Phantom888]

I have never lied. I look about 6-8 years younger than my actual age. I have all my hair, one or 2 greys, physically fit, young attitude. I dated women 10 years older, and a few years younger. They all say I look young, but they appreciate my real age. What makes people look "old" is their physical condition. Keeping fit makes you look and feel young, so really there is no reason to lie.

[sickpuppy]

Without a picture, you can tell anything on the internet. I have only once seen a guy who looked really, really young. His profile said 38 and he looked liked he was in his twenties. But everybody else just looks his damn age. And it's so bad that I'm entertaining the theory right now that most guys on the internet lie about their age and that's why most look too old for their supposed age.

 

I added a pic to my avatar taken about a month ago. Not that it matters as I don't lie if asked. Just seems as soon as I do say my real age it's a wrap. lol.

[RedRobin]

I don't lie, but I've had many situations where men of any age that I'm attracted to and ask me out.. even pursue me rather ardently... get a disappointed look on their face when I tell them my real age... even if it is close to theirs.

 

That is when *I* book outta there.

 

I guess they are assuming that I can't tell how old THEY are, and they assume that I'm some 10-15 year younger babe.

 

Of course, later on they 'recover', like I'm sure they are thinking "meh, I'll bang her for awhile. She's pretty hot for a chick my own age"... or whatever.

 

Nah. I don't play that. The minute I get that 'look', its dones-ville or waaaay back burner for them no matter what baloney they might dig up later on.

[RedRobin]

I added a pic to my avatar taken about a month ago. Not that it matters as I don't lie if asked. Just seems as soon as I do say my real age it's a wrap. lol.

 

No offense. You look your age. Tone up a bit, and you might get the young'ins to give you a whirl.

[sickpuppy]

No offense. You look your age. Tone up a bit, and you might get the young'ins to give you a whirl.

 

Odd. No one ever seems to think so. And I know several people my age who look way older than I do. Out of shape, wrinkles, gray hair etc. They always guess at least ten years younger. No offense taken. That large shirt is actually big on me. lol.

 

I do get at times younger girls (late twenties etc.) asking me how old I am. So they must not be sure..I had a 23 yo wanting to go out with me till I told her my age. Now..Not so much. lol

[coolheadal]

I know that Women lie about their age on OLD all the time. But I guess men do it too. But if your confident in yourself this really shouldn't be a problem. This commenter is right in that your might be look for someone too young!

 

The only time this age stuff comes up? How you act in person. Some of us act younger than we are and some act their age. Really depends.

 

Women feel like they can get away with it. I have a trick and always look at their elbows. Guys they either color their hair or look like they're wearing a wig or hair piece.

 

Grey hair doesn't mean the person is old some 20 to 30 years old guys have early Grey hair. Women and Men with damage skin can make them look really old in the face. If you goody too-shoes person, you might never show your real age. Then that question comes out and you hear? HOW OLD ARE YOU!

[StanMusial]

I have never lied. I look about 6-8 years younger than my actual age. I have all my hair, one or 2 greys, physically fit, young attitude. I dated women 10 years older, and a few years younger. They all say I look young, but they appreciate my real age. What makes people look "old" is their physical condition. Keeping fit makes you look and feel young, so really there is no reason to lie.

 

That's exactly what a guy at the office told me a few weeks ago. "Staying fit makes you look younger." It was on the brain, he had just crossed the 30 mark.

[sickpuppy]

The only time this age stuff comes up? How you act in person. Some of us act younger than we are and some act their age. Really depends.

 

Women feel like they can get away with it. I have a trick and always look at their elbows. Guys they either color their hair or look like they're wearing a wig or hair piece.

 

Grey hair doesn't mean the person is old some 20 to 30 years old guys have early Grey hair. Women and Men with damage skin can make them look really old in the face. If you goody too-shoes person, you might never show your real age. Then that question comes out and you hear? HOW OLD ARE YOU!

 

 

Women will expect not to be asked their age out of courtesy. And many will lie about it. Funny how that works.

[StanMusial]

Women will expect not to be asked their age out of courtesy. And many will lie about it. Funny how that works.

 

I have three sisters. I was raised with manners and Southern gentility. No, you don't ask a woman her age.

[sickpuppy]

I have three sisters. I was raised with manners and Southern gentility. No, you don't ask a woman her age.

 

 

I don't. You can get a good idea though. Some who ask me though I will ask them.

[PlumPrincess]

I added a pic to my avatar taken about a month ago. Not that it matters as I don't lie if asked. Just seems as soon as I do say my real age it's a wrap. lol.

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