gypsy25 Posted November 25, 2004 Posted November 25, 2004 Hi =) I have a question I hope you guys can give me some feedback on. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months now. We both work on film crews and are both young and just starting out. I'm 21 and he's 25. Anyways, the thing about working on films is that the hours are loooooooooong. A typical day would be from about 9:30 AM to 11:30 PM with a 12 hour turnaround time. 16 hour days are not uncommon. So anyway, he works more than I do. He works maybe a month with one to two days off a week and then he'll not work for about a week. I on the other hand work maybe 2 days out of the week, if that. I have a lot of free time. I live with my parents so I don't pay rent. So here's the thing. I have never been the type to call or want my guy to call every day to talk. I honestly don't even like talkin on the phone. So there are times where we won't talk for up to 5 days or so and then one of us calls each other and we catch up. We sort of have an understanding that this is going to be the dynamic of our relationship and that is all we can give to one another at this point because we are both focused on careers right now. I don't want more than this, I love the dynamic, it's very low maintenance and what I need right now and him too. I know that it's because of his crazy schedule that he doesn't call me more often because on his days off he always calls me to come over and be with him and we spend his weekends off together. I guess what I'm wondering is if I should call him more often to let him know I miss him and am thinking about him. I mean do guys like that sort of thing or is it only girls who care about that kind of stuff? Also, I'm leaving town for a month while he is working (he's working 14-16 hour days) and I'm a little scared that we'll lose touch because we're both so stingy about calling one another and I know he's going to be so exhausted and just be in work mode and I don't want to pressure him into calling me more because that's not what I'm looking for, I just want to make sure that we don't lose touch and to let him know that I miss him. Any ideas on how I should go about this and how often I need to call him while I'm out of town? Or should I just let him do the calling when he feels like it? Thanks for any suggestions =)
dd1463 Posted November 26, 2004 Posted November 26, 2004 Hello, Personally, I like that type of stuff. It really makes me feel special, important, wanted, you know... Every time you are thinking about him, just give him a call. If you don’t like to talk on the phone much or maybe you guys don’t have the time to talk, just make it a quick "hi babe, I’m thinking about you. I just wanted to let you know that I miss you. Give me a call when you get a chance. Muah." Not sure how other guys feel about stuff like this, but I can only assume they would like it too. Who doesn’t like attention? For example, every time my girlfriend was on her break, she would always give me a quick 3 minute call, just to tell me that she is on her break, what she was going to eat, and that she was missing and thinking about me. Every time she did that, I would have a big smile for the next 5 minutes
Queen B Posted November 26, 2004 Posted November 26, 2004 My boyfriend and I are also pretty busy and live in seperate towns. I'm the one that's usually not home so I've invested in a cell phone so that we can stay in touch no matter where I am. If I don't hear from him I usually check in every 2-3 days. Because he doesn't have a cell, when my guy goes away I give him a prepaid calling card as a little going away gift so that he can call me for free and so we don't end up paying ridiculous long distance fees.
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