KCCK Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 my ex dumped me for another guy 8 weeks ago... i tried to move on and did all the deleting of her from FB, phone, pictures and go NC since early of September as advice by LS community... last sunday was my convocation and she texted me saying congratulations.. I broke NC just to reply courteously "thanks and all the best to you". That was it and I was planning on going back to NC.. than today, she texted me again saying " she heard from people that I had a job already and how is things at my new workplace?" .. Should I just ignore her text and continue NC or should I reply something short again? The thing is I still love her but she dumped me for another guy and I am still a little hurt inside from the incident but i really love her as she is my first love.. Please give me some advice.. thanks.. =)
barky2 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Ignore it. Wait for something worth replying for. Dumped you for another dude? Id personally tell her to get bent but that's just me Stay strong. Id put a nickel on it ull hear from her again. Barky 3
almond Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Most definitely ignore the text. You are setting yourself up for a world of pain if you go down that road again. You're doing well, keep it up. 3
Philosoraptor Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 You should just hit delete and go about enjoying your day. No need to overthink this. You allowed her to dump and friendzone her, and you're doing nothing but causing your own pain by maintaining any level of contact with someone you love whom could so easily dump you for another. 4
EdG Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I'd agree with the posts above that you should press delete and try and forgot she texted you. If she doesn't hear from you she'll continue to chase, but don't give in (after all, she dumped you for another guy!), simply take it as an ego boost that she perhaps regrets leaving you in the first place and go about your business... 2
HarleyBrown2 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I totally understand your predicament, I was in your shoes not so long ago. My advice is that while you continue to reply she will continue to communicate with you. I personally knew what I had to do, which was move on, so having her contact/be in my life, wasnt helping one bit, it just held me back! There were times she would text just being nice and I would feel so rude not replying, but the truth is they are being unfair texting, she didnt want you in her life and she made that clear, so she can't choose to drop by with a text here and there, I'd explain that you 'don't want contact in order for you to heal, so pls stop msging and allow me to move on' something along those lines! I wish I had done it sooner, because now my ex thinks it's okay to text call when she wants, I've moved on but still have a lot of healing to do and hearing from her doesn't help 1 bit! Just giving you my experience, know it doesn't answer straight, but may help' 2
Chi townD Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I totally understand your predicament, I was in your shoes not so long ago. My advice is that while you continue to reply she will continue to communicate with you. I agree to a point. She'll continue to communicate until she's sure you don't actually hate her for the things she did to you. Once she's able to ease her guilt, you're thrown back in the gutter. So, just ignore it. Hell, she already knew you had a job, she can find out how your doing from the resources she's already tapped into if she's that curious. 2
Chi townD Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 And another thing too....If I remember correctly, she left you for a guy she was with for the two weeks break in between semesters at University? And if I remember correctly, this guy has a minimum wage job and not going anywhere in life? She congratulated you on your convocation, which is an assembly for a ceremony. So, I'll just a assume it was for your graduation? AND you just landed a job, which is probably going to pay you a decent wage. And...she's still with minimum wage guy? She may be sick of eating at McDonalds and is looking for a reservation at a 5 star restaurant. Don't you think it's too convenient that she's contacting you AFTER you're moving onto a bright future? 4
barky2 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 And another thing too....If I remember correctly, she left you for a guy she was with for the two weeks break in between semesters at University? And if I remember correctly, this guy has a minimum wage job and not going anywhere in life? She congratulated you on your convocation, which is an assembly for a ceremony. So, I'll just a assume it was for your graduation? AND you just landed a job, which is probably going to pay you a decent wage. And...she's still with minimum wage guy? She may be sick of eating at McDonalds and is looking for a reservation at a 5 star restaurant. Don't you think it's too convenient that she's contacting you AFTER you're moving onto a bright future? ^^ OP.....do me a favor, read this....then re read it. You should be charged for getting a POV like this. Barky 1
Author KCCK Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 And another thing too....If I remember correctly, she left you for a guy she was with for the two weeks break in between semesters at University? And if I remember correctly, this guy has a minimum wage job and not going anywhere in life? She congratulated you on your convocation, which is an assembly for a ceremony. So, I'll just a assume it was for your graduation? AND you just landed a job, which is probably going to pay you a decent wage. And...she's still with minimum wage guy? She may be sick of eating at McDonalds and is looking for a reservation at a 5 star restaurant. Don't you think it's too convenient that she's contacting you AFTER you're moving onto a bright future? Yup.... I am that same guy...thank you very much for still remembering my story.. really appreciate it... i was actually moving on but her sudden text on my graduation day and 2 days after that totally shocked me and took me by suprise.. Thanks everyone, I will stay strong and just ignore her text, focus on my career and move on... Will try to keep NC from now on.. thanks everyone.. =) 2
Author KCCK Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 I am really trying hard to move on by keeping NC and etc... but I guess it's because she is my first love, it makes things a little bit harder... thanks everyone... really need and appreciate the support and advices... =) 1
Chi townD Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Look dude, it's only been two months. I mean, 8 weeks isn't enough time to get over your first love. That's just a drop in the bucket as far as time is concerned. Keep doing what you're doing. If she texts you again, ignore it and post about it here. People will be here to walk you through it. Show you a different way to look at things and show you the meaning behind it. Unfortunately, our hearts get in the way sometimes. 3
Author KCCK Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 okay guys... i am totally all over her d.. i dont give a damn about her anymore...i make a promise to myself to ignore her forever.. someone who can dump me for another guy is totally not worth my time.. came to this resolution after i went to open my email account today and saw that she had changed her pic into her and that guy for some time already... but on her FB page, she still puts on her single picture because she is afraid people will label her as a bitch/whore as there are many common friends from the university.. lol... thanks for the support/advice and I will surely move on from here...
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