Nyclovin Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 This time I would take my stuff look her in her cold unrelenting face and say goodbye. Instead of crying and begging and texting and calling and acting like a child who lost his favorite toy, I would be a man , walk out with my head held high, not turn around , not say one more word, just leave. Afterall, she made it clear she did not want me anymore. Why would I try and change her mind ? What would you do differently ?
JoelBarish Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 This time I would take my stuff look her in her cold unrelenting face and say goodbye. Instead of crying and begging and texting and calling and acting like a child who lost his favorite toy, I would be a man , walk out with my head held high, not turn around , not say one more word, just leave. Afterall, she made it clear she did not want me anymore. Why would I try and change her mind ? What would you do differently ? I would have started NC sooner instead pouring my heart out in a bunch of texts that got no replies. The good news is I am handling this break up better than I have in the past. I suppose our emotional scars make us stronger.
Gingerlee Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I would not have carried on sleeping with him for 8 months after. I would not have taken his ridiculous drunken phone calls at 3am every weekend. I would have blocked and deleted his sorry ass long before he did it to me. *sigh* 3
Bito Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I would do nothing different. The mistakes we make are nessasary to improve. Thinking about your ego wound accomplishes nothing. In a few years you wont even care. 4
cavalier99 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 This time I would take my stuff look her in her cold unrelenting face and say goodbye. Instead of crying and begging and texting and calling and acting like a child who lost his favorite toy, I would be a man , walk out with my head held high, not turn around , not say one more word, just leave. Afterall, she made it clear she did not want me anymore. Why would I try and change her mind ? What would you do differently ? Same as you. Almost has a BU (sorta) with my current girl friend and just walking away and maintaining my dignity was the only thing on my mind. I learned my lesson in my last BU. I did give her a chance and she took it. She was just super angry over something little and threw out the the BU card. So it wasnt serious but i dont play those games. We are still together. She knows if we ever BU she will never near from me again ..no begging or pleading and she will be instantly blocked. Cav 2
AnyaNova Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 (edited) If I could go back and do it again. I would give two or three days after the breakup for stuff exchange and last phone calls. Then I would go complete NC, probably for good, but at least for 60 days. If I had, I would not be where I am now. I mean, while we dated, he was caring and stuff, but he never showed any real strong feeling for me. My last memory of him would suck, in that he was really cold and distant on that day. Was I sad, upset, a little angry, and a big helping of bruised ego? Yes. Of course. But I would be so much farther along than I am now. But it would beat the living you know what out of that bizarre last meeting, where given his behavior, everyone I knew save one thought we were about to get back together, and where he showed such intense need and feeling for me while simultaneously insisting that we were never going to see each other again. It would definitely beat the crazy town bus I am on now, and all the feelings in me that his need for me stirred, and all the pain that being sent away in that manner stirred. I wouldn't know or suspect half the things I now know and suspect. And I would be worlds happier for it. Edited September 24, 2013 by AnyaNova 1
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