NYC-BigKat Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Um...not sure . I met her yesterday at my job. She works a few floors over my head & she looks really really cute & since my 1st lay I feel confident in getting a sexy girl but when I asked to take her to lunch she laughed & told me lots of guys ask that & she walked out the office . Um..not sure what to do from here? I really really wanna sleep with her u know.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Do u think she might be hard to catch???
KatZee Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I love when women turn down guys and the guy thinks she's playing "hard to get" and is "hard to catch." You asked her out, she laughed in your face, didn't agree to go to lunch with you and walked out. If you want to look desperate, by all means. Chase her. Classy that you're not saying, "she seems like a great girl I'd love to get to know." You just say, "I really want to sleep with her you know." More proof that dating in NYC is just ridiculous. 5
brittneyfoster Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Do you want to get to know her or do you want to sleep with her? Those are completely different things.
soccerrprp Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I really really wanna sleep with her u know. This is why she laughed in your face. She knows you're after sex and not a relationship. If she's smart, she'd keep away from you and every other guy looking for sex w/o commitment.
truth_seeker Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I love when women turn down guys and the guy thinks she's playing "hard to get" and is "hard to catch." You asked her out, she laughed in your face, didn't agree to go to lunch with you and walked out. If you want to look desperate, by all means. Chase her. Classy that you're not saying, "she seems like a great girl I'd love to get to know." You just say, "I really want to sleep with her you know." More proof that dating in NYC is just ridiculous. This is not entirely true. For the OP, yes. She can sense he's all about hooking up only. There are though some women who turn a guy down to test them. To see if they go away (only want to hook up) or have real interest in them (want more than hooking up). 1
coolheadal Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 DING! Wake-up forget her, and never go out with anyone from the office. This girl is a tease and your her boy toy for her. First hint! She laughs in your face after you ask her out for launch! Pay her no mine, and walk away from her. Don't even give her the time of the day. Let her come to you if she's really into digging you? Just got to wake-up and see the picture here! Sounds like your want to just into the sack first before you know what your dealing with this type of office gal. So many girls outside the office work place, you really need to look else where!
tlegend Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Honestly, what is this site? I've been reading a few posts and some of these suggestions are just.....a matter of perspective. First, its very evident you are playing the game. Yes, its a game. Let me give you advice for that as well. Playing the game, and finding real romance, is 2 different things. If you want to get her to bed, then you are going to have to do some homework. Not about her, about how to play the game. You just asked a question that basically every man would ask himself after a failed attempt at a lame pickup. You did a cheesy "let me take you to lunch" line. She laughed, told you basically that you are like every other guy that has tried, and walked out. Some see this as a sign of "I dont want you, blah blah blah". That may the case. However, it may also be that she's trying to tell you try harder. She told you that she always gets asked out to lunch. Dont ****ing do that. Do something else. I'd tell you a few ideas, but thats the point. YOU have to develop these skills, in your own original way. Once you gain confidence, a little know-how on what to say in conversations, and brainstorm ideas other than the traditional "dinner or lunch and a movie" date. Think of something crazy, yet simple, and original. Or, you can just listen to the hivemind and go after someone else after 1 failed, and cheesy, "want to go to lunch" line. 1
tlegend Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 This is not entirely true. For the OP, yes. She can sense he's all about hooking up only. There are though some women who turn a guy down to test them. To see if they go away (only want to hook up) or have real interest in them (want more than hooking up). Please explain to me how saying that every guy asks her that and walking out is turning him down. In no way, shape, or form did she say No. She laughed at the attempt, and told him to do better than every other guy.
FitChick Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 You evidently have not read the OPs "dating adventures" on this forum.
tlegend Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 You evidently have not read the OPs "dating adventures" on this forum. Well, I must admit, loveshack is something I frequent every so often.....not consistently. =/ Foot-in-mouth syndrome, curable with a little embarrassment.
carhill Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I like her but should I chase her?? IMO, no need to 'chase' but also no harm in further engagement as opportunity presents itself. Have some fun with it. The goal is to improve your social skills and go on dates. Wanting sex is normal for a young man. Otherwise, why would you be approaching perfect strangers whom you likely know nothing about and asking to buy them lunch? If things go nowhere with this one, soon another will catch your eye. Learn from each one. Good luck.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Do you want to get to know her or do you want to sleep with her? Those are completely different things. I kinda wanna get to know her but its her face & body that turns me on & it made me talk to her. Does laughing & saying all guys wanna take her to get lunch is a turn down? Not sure .
Atem Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 This is not entirely true. For the OP, yes. She can sense he's all about hooking up only. There are though some women who turn a guy down to test them. To see if they go away (only want to hook up) or have real interest in them (want more than hooking up). Yes and no - depends on the situation. In this case, she laughed in his face, so he's out (unless she did it in a playful way, which is not clear). Anyway, there's a difference between testing (which is when a guy who's interested can still chase) and just playing obnoxciously hard to get (in which case the guy should leave). Here's an example from personal experience from a few years ago. Met a girl, had a good time 3 dates in a row. Then she started being flaky, **** started coming up out of nowhere and setting up the next date turned into: "U free this weekend? Yes. Fr. evening? Sry, no. Sat. evening? Sry, no but let's do Sun afternoon. Ok, let's meet at time X. Sounds great. Let's meet at place X. Uhm, but I'll be tired so I don't want to travel that far, let's do Place Y" and so on... 1. You should never get to this point because it's just a ****ing waste of time for you 2. if you do get to this point, let it go This is no longer "testing" but pure BS. Fun fact - that woman actually called me out of the blue a few months later. We met up, ****ed and then went our own ways again. Goes to show you what kind of a girl she was So, in short, do NOT chase like crazy. A few little "tests" are ok but it is usually pretty obvious whether a girl is into you or not. If she keeps stringing you along, bail. Do NOT get invested/go into chase mode or you'll only drive yourself crazy. The harder you chase, the more she'll get off on it... Just my 2c
Author NYC-BigKat Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Yes and no - depends on the situation. In this case, she laughed in his face, so he's out (unless she did it in a playful way, which is not clear). Anyway, there's a difference between testing (which is when a guy who's interested can still chase) and just playing obnoxciously hard to get (in which case the guy should leave). Here's an example from personal experience from a few years ago. Met a girl, had a good time 3 dates in a row. Then she started being flaky, **** started coming up out of nowhere and setting up the next date turned into: "U free this weekend? Yes. Fr. evening? Sry, no. Sat. evening? Sry, no but let's do Sun afternoon. Ok, let's meet at time X. Sounds great. Let's meet at place X. Uhm, but I'll be tired so I don't want to travel that far, let's do Place Y" and so on... 1. You should never get to this point because it's just a ****ing waste of time for you 2. if you do get to this point, let it go This is no longer "testing" but pure BS. Fun fact - that woman actually called me out of the blue a few months later. We met up, ****ed and then went our own ways again. Goes to show you what kind of a girl she was So, in short, do NOT chase like crazy. A few little "tests" are ok but it is usually pretty obvious whether a girl is into you or not. If she keeps stringing you along, bail. Do NOT get invested/go into chase mode or you'll only drive yourself crazy. The harder you chase, the more she'll get off on it... Just my 2c Yep u might be right. I saw her again this morning. She stopped over by the office but she works upstairs not with me & she looked at me & smiled & my coworker nudged me hard in the arm . I went to talk to her by the elevator & I asked if she liked arcade games & she smiled & said if I was trying to ask her out & I said yea & she said she'll think about it & left. I'll let her do some thinking right? Um...I told my coworker about it & he told me 2 other guys tried her & she brushed them off with excuses. I wanna describe how she looks okay? She's black looks like Rihanna but shorter & has a really great body just like her but with bigger chest & she puts her hands on her hips a lot when I talk to her. What does that mean? Anyway I never dated a black girl since I'm a Dominican & the girls I attract are a latin or a white girl but I don't care about that 'cause she looks good & I need more advice on where to go from here.
MissBee Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Um...not sure . I met her yesterday at my job. She works a few floors over my head & she looks really really cute & since my 1st lay I feel confident in getting a sexy girl but when I asked to take her to lunch she laughed & told me lots of guys ask that & she walked out the office . Um..not sure what to do from here? I really really wanna sleep with her u know. She doesn't seem interested...so I'd leave her be.
Shaun-Dro Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 Yep u might be right. I saw her again this morning. She stopped over by the office but she works upstairs not with me & she looked at me & smiled & my coworker nudged me hard in the arm . I went to talk to her by the elevator & I asked if she liked arcade games & she smiled & said if I was trying to ask her out & I said yea & she said she'll think about it & left. I'll let her do some thinking right? Um...I told my coworker about it & he told me 2 other guys tried her & she brushed them off with excuses. I wanna describe how she looks okay? She's black looks like Rihanna but shorter & has a really great body just like her but with bigger chest & she puts her hands on her hips a lot when I talk to her. What does that mean? Anyway I never dated a black girl since I'm a Dominican & the girls I attract are a latin or a white girl but I don't care about that 'cause she looks good & I need more advice on where to go from here. This is interesting. Ever since your uncle set you up with a girl for which I assume is your first lay you were unable to establish anything further and now you want to take a stab at a sexy sister? From what you describe, I doubt she's interested, but rather just flattered with the attention you're desperate to give her, and will say no or brush you off like she's done to the others once you come asking back. She's a tease, Bigkat. Clearly you don't see it but the wiser ones do. Just have your uncle set you up with another dame if you're that horny again.
Atem Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 This is interesting. Ever since your uncle set you up with a girl for which I assume is your first lay you were unable to establish anything further and now you want to take a stab at a sexy sister? From what you describe, I doubt she's interested, but rather just flattered with the attention you're desperate to give her, and will say no or brush you off like she's done to the others once you come asking back. She's a tease, Bigkat. Clearly you don't see it but the wiser ones do. Just have your uncle set you up with another dame if you're that horny again. This. And after reading your most recent post - This again. Forget/ignore her and go look elsewhere. If she keeps fishing for attention, do NOT fall for it. Brush her off and move on. There is nothing for you to get her. This woman is getting a kick out of getting attention, nothing more. You can't win here and - to be clear - you don't even want to. Women who tease/string guys along are: - very unstable - complex-ridden (usually some sort of weird inferiority complex) - NOT girlfriend material (not even short term) She'll just keep mind-****ing you if you let her. Don't even turn her down or anything when she comes again - just move on.
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