Break up with her or?

[ashketchum]

My girlfriend of almost 4 years told me she likes another guy

We have been doing this with the same guy for almost a year

He ****s up eventually and they stop being friends

2-3 months later he apoligizes and she forgives him

She goes back to liking him and acts so distant towards me

She tells me she will always have feelings for him

She says he is her second love

She told me yesterday that she cant control that

she says she will forgive him a thousand times just like shes done with me

The thing is that i know he will hurt her eventually

I still love her and i know she still loves me

Ive stayed with her the past three times

He gets mad when he wont leave me for him

He has depression and so does she so she connects with him more than me

I dont know to stay and actually try to re spark our relationship

Or just stop and move on to the next one no matter how hard it is for me

[h2man]

I'm just curious... you say she has forgiven you "a thousand times" - what did you do?

[ashketchum]

I cheated on her

I left her for another girl

I said stuff that you shouldn't say

I talked to my ex girlfriend asking her to hang out

I've hung out with girls without telling her

Stuff like that.

I mean I didn't realize i was in love up until 2 years ago. After that i have been so nice and not doing anything wrong. She just told me yesterday that she was in love with me when we first started dating and i didn't realize it. Now that i love her this much i feel like the tables have turned. Now im in that place and i cant feel but pain everytime i think about her leaving me.