wtfakon2 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Well here's my story: This girl I was seeing was a really close friend. We knew each other since elementary school. We re met later when she dated one of my friends. For the past 5 years, we worked together and we have gotten close. Only around last year, I started having feelings towards her and she also liked me back. So we secretly saw each other when whenever we have time because she would sometimes work on weekdays and we both worked on the weekends. I didn't want our friends to know, because I thought it would cause more drama since she use to date on of my friends (they broke up at least a year before any of this happen). But, over time last year, our group of friends split into two groups due to other reasons. She was still hanging around with her ex, and I was with the other group. I have no intention with hanging out with the other group because of what they did. So around August of this year, she started to push me away. She would denied all my request to go out, saying she was "tired", which was true since she worked 7 days a week. She barely text/talk to me. Answer with one word answers and would often play with her phone when she with me. I kept asking what was wrong, but she kept saying nothing. So one day, I kept asking until she answers. She said she just wants to be friends. So since beginning of September, I stayed friends, but it hurt a lot. I went out to each lunch with her a couple times. We went hiking then shopping together. I couldn't deal with it. I kept asking her if she still likes me or still have feelings for me. It was always an "idk". Stupid me started to begged a lot and it annoyed her. So finally one day she said, I lost all feelings for you. Told me she saw no future in us, and there's no more. I wasn't sure if that was a real answer or she got frustrated with me asking. She still talked to me afterwards for a few days but then I couldn't take it anymore. So I started NC. After a week, I broke NC yesterday. I really wanted closure, so I ask her what went wrong. She kept saying "idk", and then finally said, "idk, just didn't feel like we were going out". I feel so stupid now, because I really liked her a lot but I guess I didn't show it enough. I didn't tell anybody about our relationship because I thought it was cause more drama and harm to us but it worked the opposite. I also asked if she don't want to talk to me anymore, she replied "idc, I just don't want to talk and it gives you hope." Right now, I'm not sure how to proceed. Not sure if she is really over me or just confuse. Not sure if she will give me another chance for me to show her that she meant a lot to me. Not sure if she still cares about me. We known each other for so long, I don't want to lose her just like that. I need a reality check. I know she clearly said it's over, but is there any chance she would let me right my wrongs?
Philosoraptor Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 From the story you both sound a bit young and immature. I'd say just leave it be and find someone who is willing to communicate with you rather than just saying "idk".
Author wtfakon2 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Well I asked her today if she would give me a second chance. As always she responded with "idk". So I'm guessing the only thing I can do is keep NC and hope for the best. If its meant to be its meant to be. If someone could tell me what "idk" usually means, it would be great.
lauri Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 (edited) Well I asked her today if she would give me a second chance. As always she responded with "idk". So I'm guessing the only thing I can do is keep NC and hope for the best. If its meant to be its meant to be. If someone could tell me what "idk" usually means, it would be great. "I don't know" means that she is confused or wants to let you down easy. Normally, confusion means that she has a low interest level in you. If you want to increase her interest level in you I suggest you no contact and start to move forward in life. It'll be the easiest way for you to move forward in life and also re-evaluate your situation with her. The more you ask her and the more you talk to her, the lower her interest level will become. Also, when a girl says lets just be friends, you are toast. I don't like it how she isn't straight forward but that's how most girls are - even my ex was doing the same. She would say I don't know what I want, I'm confused, etc. but in the end its not my problem anymore. She decided to end it and I'll leave it at that. I have my moments but it doesn't mean I'm gonna be weak and sit around like a lost puppy dog waiting for her, and either should you. Edited September 24, 2013 by lauri 1
Author wtfakon2 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 "I don't know" means that she is confused or wants to let you down easy. Normally, confusion means that she has a low interest level in you. If you want to increase her interest level in you I suggest you no contact and start to move forward in life. It'll be the easiest way for you to move forward in life and also re-evaluate your situation with her. The more you ask her and the more you talk to her, the lower her interest level will become. Also, when a girl says lets just be friends, you are toast. I don't like it how she isn't straight forward but that's how most girls are - even my ex was doing the same. She would say I don't know what I want, I'm confused, etc. but in the end its not my problem anymore. She decided to end it and I'll leave it at that. I have my moments but it doesn't mean I'm gonna be weak and sit around like a lost puppy dog waiting for her, and either should you. Thanks. My brain is telling me is over, nothing I can do. But my heart doesn't seem to want to let go. We were both really close friends and been friends for a long time. Sucks that I still have to go to work and see her for 3 days a week.
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