serenavee Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Hi, My boyfriend and father of my baby broke up with me a few days ago. The reason why, he says is because he feels like we don't love each other and he's been battling anxiety, depression, insomnia, alcoholism and drug issues the past several months because of his job. he's a chef so he works 12-15 hours a day and hardly has time to see us. I agree that we put our relationship on the back burner because we put our daughter first and his work makes it difficult to even have a relationship. I've tried to convince him to quit his job and get help even if that means we won't have much, his life will be so much better. He says he wants to work til the end of the year which is in 3 more months then quit because we planned to move overseas in January as a family. I keep telling him he needs to quit now and work out his issues but he keeps putting it off. Now he just wants to break up and I don't know what I'm supposed to do. especially because we have a baby together. I love him very much and believe the reason he's breaking up because he's over stressed. He always texts me to ask how we are doing and I just say were OK. Should I just ignore his texts? I don't know how to cope knowing I am a single parent just in a blink of an eye. I feel so sick. I know he's got issues to deal with himself but to break up our family.. I really didn't see this coming i was told he's getting help for his issues now. should I send words of support to him or just leave him alone I just want my family back. Somebody please help me
Philosoraptor Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Sadly these issues are his own and he doesn't seem to want your support right now. Until he figures himself out you need to do what is best to take care of your baby and make a happy life for yourself and this child. 1
KatZee Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I would say leave him alone. He's got a lot on his plate and HE needs to sort these issues. Give him the space and time to do so. If he reaches out to you, keep the conversation in neutral territory. Do not discuss the relationship. Just keep him informed of your child and keep the conversations short. You should be the one ending those calls as well. It's good that he's getting help, and once he gets his head screwed back on there is a chance he would want to work on it again, but it's most likely not going to be an overnight fix. Be strong for your child, lean on family and friends for support and help with things. 1
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