Cstella Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Good evening other sleepless users, I'm new here. I'm not officially broken up as far as I can tell, but I've just recently recognized that I've been guilty of this thing called "overfunctioning" big time in the past year with my boyfriend and best friend of nearly eight years. Last week, when we were last talking via chat (we lived apart all summer and I am currently away due partly to work and to his mother, whom I dislike, using our apartment as a halfway house), the chat ended on a bad note. When we are in contact, I am always the one to initiate. He has stopped putting in any work on his bond with me whatsoever, not nearly as much as I have, even though I have expressed displeasure to him on many occasions. I have never, ever done this before. I am going full no contact for as long as it takes for him to realize that he is screwing up our relationship. My goal is to completely alter the dynamics of the relationship to where he is pursuing me, and to where it forces him to feel what I feel in terms of missing him (I want to talk to him everyday, and as of now I don't believe that he wants to talk to me). I have felt closed off from him for so long and I really want it to stop this time. I found an unused notebook in my room. I started to fill a page with "Do not contact (his name)" and as my hand got fatigued my head started to feel better. I really don't want to screw up my progress by contacting him (I have terrible willpower like you wouldn't believe, whereas he's got tremendous enviable willpower). Afterwards I recorded days of no contact and whether or not he had reached out to me that day (it's been one week of radio silence). Has anyone else felt keeping a record of progress to be useful in maintaining willpower?
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