ChiisaiKitty Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Okay, so I just moved in the area, and had a hard life. And I met a guy named Tim. Tim became my first real friend. And we kinda fell for eachother. But we knew we could not be together cz im a virgin and he is a sex addict. We decided to not be bf and gf cz we knew we had no future together as lovers. But we also decided to freely express our love for eachother in private. We would make out n everything. Everything except stick the d in. Then after a while he met another girl and started to date her. I was heart broken at first, but got over it fast since my love for him as a friend was MUCH stronger than romantic love. But he was moody about the relationship between his gf and me. Sometimes he was casual with me and would treat me as a friend and say he wont be sexual with me anymore, then the next he is soo horny and begs to make out with me. Partly my fault though, cz its my personality to be a tease. Plus I am really hot. Then Sun I went to visit him.... and we went out all sexual like before again. He told me he wanted to teach me how to be sexual for my future husband. At first I went with it. I rolled with the punches. But I did not enjoy it. He looked like he did. I forced a smile. He told me he is just teaching me... but I can't help but think he is just being horny and wants to **** me, who has boobs and a body while his gf is all flat. She is cute, but flat. And to add... I look into his eyes... and I remember during the summer how his eyes where when they were in love. He seems to completly lost that. Even for his gf. I don't know what happened. I just don't know what to do..... I wanna tell him this; "You can lie to yourself all you want, but you don't wanna teach me to be sexual. You just wanna **** me cz im hot. I know your gf hates me, but I still wanna respect her. And us doing this is disrespectful not only to her, but to us. I want to be friends, not friends with benefits. Especially since ya have a gf. We can't do this," Something like this... Thanks for listening!
shankers Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Wow you seem pretty vain...the only advice I can give is to not ruin someone elses relationship. Trust me it will come back to bite you in the ass someway or the other.
Author ChiisaiKitty Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Wow you seem pretty vain...the only advice I can give is to not ruin someone elses relationship. Trust me it will come back to bite you in the ass someway or the other. I'm actually not very vain. I speak that way on purpose to kinda joke around. But them again I suck at making sense. I don't wanna destroy the relationship. Even if I can tell he doesn't really love her. The question is more of how do I get him to understand that he can't be playing with other girls while he had a gf? I don't wanna get involved with him in that way for 2 reasons; 1. I don't love him that way. He is more of a really really good friend that I treasure. And don't wanna mess with that. 2. I wanna respect his relationship I just am so fusterated. I am so used to going with the waves I'd you know what I mean. But it seems I have to be the foot down for once here. Do I make sense?
Toddbt12y1 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 You need to end this friendship. Look, he does have a girlfriend, one he does not respect; just as he does not respect you. How he treats his gf, tells it all. Not a good friend or bf. Getting involved in this mess will be bad. Simple to end this friendship with the disrespectful horn dog. But you cannot make him "see he cannot do girls this way." Apart of his lack of self control and more.
lionoftheforum Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 (edited) Hey! Touch my wizard sleeve. ...he is a sex addict... This solves everything. Edited September 24, 2013 by lionoftheforum
Author ChiisaiKitty Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 You need to end this friendship. Look, he does have a girlfriend, one he does not respect; just as he does not respect you. How he treats his gf, tells it all. Not a good friend or bf. Getting involved in this mess will be bad. Simple to end this friendship with the disrespectful horn dog. But you cannot make him "see he cannot do girls this way." Apart of his lack of self control and more. We vowed to be friends forever. I promised to always be there for him, and he promised to always be there for me. I have lost a lot of friends, but he is one friend I will NOT loose. He always does learn his lesson. I just hope through this relationship he has with his gf he would learn his.
Author ChiisaiKitty Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Hey! Touch my wizard sleeve. This solves everything. Most every guy is a sex addict.
jacksonvillae Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 I wouldn't even be friends. You have too much work to do to find the type of person that is the best match for you and to get a lot of experience with how to go about it. I would also seek out free dating advice online to get the rules and tips as there are many things to know.
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