Jadedbyluv Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 It's as simple as that. Is there such thing as bad timing when it comes to dating? Or do people use it as an easy way out?
soccerrprp Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 It exists. Some will use it as a way out, but it certainly exists. 1
carhill Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 IME, 'bad timing' usually amounted to one or both people being married. 1
soccerrprp Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 IME, 'bad timing' usually amounted to one or both people being married. 1. Personal, mental issues that need to be dealt with 2. One person needing to move 3. Mourning the passing of someone dear, so not healthy enough for relationship 4. Money issues 5. Etc., etc. etc.... So many possible reasons really... 1
carhill Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Definitely possible, but not relevant IME, especially if expanding 'married' to 'committed to another'. Even the disordered/addicted ones are married/LTR'd. If they become single for ten seconds, one must be on them like stink on poop or fail.
Carenth Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Some people it is an easy way out but it is very real as well. For me there was a couple of years where I didn't date because I was a mental wreck suffering major depression. I had a few people interested in me at that time but I knew any relationship that would form from that would be unhealthy due to my own issues. If someone tells you that just accept it at face value. They are either telling the truth or letting you down gently either way you move on. Which one it is doesn't really matter as they both have the same result.
todreaminblue Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 i dont know about bad timing....id o knwo this when you go through bad times the people that stay close to you and support you through bad times........are the ones who when you feel strong enough to date again are the ones you should date and keep.... for a persons true intentions come to the fore when going through rough times.....you see who has fortitude and you see who leaves you behind.....th eones that leave you behind sayign what a mess are the oens that would run when things got rough if you were to be with them,...i think bad times are when you judge a persons character its also with the people you push away tell to get lost......but when you go to them and say hey im really sorry...it was like it never happened those are the keepers.....i call them lifers...i think when you are going through bad times......is a time to really see who is around you near you ....and standing beside you..even when you ask them to go .....they wait for you anyway.......i started a relationship in a rough time actually two relationships......one lasted three eyars....the other...fifteen...i stand by my choice to do that.....i think its truthfully for me...the best time to date....at least you can say for real....it will only get better .....this really has a chance at being really good....my loyalty lies in this.....the guys i have been with....i was loyal they deserved it...lol....at the time.....the best friends i have lifers as i said.....i met when going through horrors they refused to budge...stood beside me...........deb
Queenie42 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Some people it is an easy way out but it is very real as well. For me there was a couple of years where I didn't date because I was a mental wreck suffering major depression. I had a few people interested in me at that time but I knew any relationship that would form from that would be unhealthy due to my own issues. If someone tells you that just accept it at face value. They are either telling the truth or letting you down gently either way you move on. Which one it is doesn't really matter as they both have the same result. So very true. "Bad timing" doesn't necessarily involve having another partner. It can also be tied in with "It's not you, it's me" which is a totally valid reason you could have not pursuing a relationship, but is another one of those catchphrases which has been misused to the point of uselessness. Thanks, Seinfeld There was about 18 months between first meeting my boyfriend and actually starting to go out with him. I instantly knew he was gorgeous and I had a massive crush on him, and I had the hint that he was interested in me too. BUT I knew and understood that I was a bit of a wreck, and far too naive probably to be part of a good and lasting relationship at that time. So I held back and took some time for my own personal development, trying to become a generally healthier and happier person. I don't think of those 18 months as lost time, but as just "the wrong time," the space between "bad timing" and "good timing."
Guitarisgood Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 The only question you have to ask is, if you were Brad Pitt; or if you are a guy, if you were a Victoria Secrets supermodel, would 'said' thing happen?
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