AllTooWell Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 After a real messy break up and 6 months of periods of no contact. I got the message I had wanted for so long... but now I don't know. I got the apology I had laid awake imagining and seeing him break down and tell me he still loves me, wants to get back together and be with me forever was pretty satisfying. Up until then I didn't think I even had feelings for him anymore, but hearing his voice and seeing him like that stirred up some old feelings for sure. I told him I didn't know if I wanted a relationship right now - with anyone. I'm enjoying being single and building my identity - I had been with him a few years (including first and second year of university) and once we broke up I realized I had been so tied to him.. I barely had my own identity. I'm working on that, on my studying, on my hobbies. I've made so many incredible friendships which I really didn't have before when I was with him. Including working out again, eating healthy, and I have quit drinking. I also know he's struggling right now which makes me hesitant to trust him. I voiced that to him and he told me he was okay with waiting however long I need - be it 6 months or 6 years, because all the time apart has just shown him that no matter how long we're apart, he will always want me back and find his way back. Part of me was over the moon that he still loves me and wants to be with me - the other part was very hesitant. I have the distance to review our relationship now and it really wasn't as good as I thought it was. In the end I said we could start slow, start with a clean slate, and try being just friends for now. So he's going to come see me next weekend for the day. I just want to say that for everyone who is broken hearted, it may seem cruel and counter intuitive to follow some of the advice on here (like NC). But the thing is, they are right. I am now at a place where I don't NEED that relationship anymore, I know I'm fine - amazing actually - on my own. And that's what NC gave me. 6
na49 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I'm happy for you and I know you'll be fine with whatever happens. It must be nice having all of the power this time! 1
Angry bird Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 This is amazing, I love this story. NC really is for YOU, to heal. and I wish I did this in the past with my prior relationships.
loveiswar101 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 That's just amazing, so happy for you. I am just starting out and hopefully one day the one I love will come back. I wish u well.
Jmk21 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 How sweet! I would dress as hot as you can. Wear that perfume that he likes. Let him pay for dinner and at the end of the night cut him down with a kiss on the cheek and say your going to make a great friend lol j/k #napalm. You bet your ass that call/message stroked your ego pretty good, it would for me but keep your options open and keep your guard up. Best of luck to you
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