Author HeartInPieces Posted September 26, 2013 Author Posted September 26, 2013 I know breaking NC was a mistake but I am utterly confused by this woman. she ****ing crushed me by telling me she already slept with someone else... and she was hoping that I had too, so that we would both move on. But the only thing she wants to insist on making clear is that she isn't dating anyone. And that's pretty much the only reason she even responded to me yesterday. Why? Why does it matter? I mean, I could understand wanting me to know that so I don't give up hope 100% or she can keep me on the backburner, but she already tried to get me to move on, so that can't be it, can it?
lindsay1990 Posted September 26, 2013 Posted September 26, 2013 (edited) Because in breaking no contact you handed the control back to her, and she doesn't want to let it go now. Whoever says the least, whoever stays silent is in control. Now, she runs the discourse and the situation. She know what you think, knows how much you know, knows what you feel, and you? You know what she dripped out to ya. NC asap. It will be like this everytime you break it because she will not tell you what you want to hear. What do you want to hear exactly? I don't think we know when we are in this position but it's very likely that we're not gonna get it. EDIT to clarify that I DO think it's about control. But not you over her, but you over yourself. Don't hand over your cards by breaking NC. After the break up, the healing process and the closure process are on and it's every man and women for themselves. Keep your control in NC. Don't let her have both controls, if this makes sense. Maybe this is bad advice, but it is what I think to myself. Edited September 26, 2013 by lindsay1990
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