Leegh Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Do most guys like it if a girl takes the initiative? Does it make the guy become more interested or does he feel an obligation to go out even though he may not want to? Is it only the "fear of commitment" guys that are not interested in girls who approach them? Thanks for any input!
EasyHeart Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 It depends on the guy. If I'm interested in a woman, I ask her out myself. So if a woman asks me first, it generally means I'm not interested. It's not that her asking me turned me off somehow, it's just that if I had been interested, I would have already asked her. But there are a lot of men who post here who wait for women to ask them out. They think that if they like a woman, they should wait for her to ask them. If it is one of those guys, then you should ask away! 2
carhill Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 OP, you'll view a wide variety of relevant opinions in these two threads: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/391810-how-many-men-have-never-rarely-been-approached-woman http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/350484-men-how-often-do-you-get-approached-women If a woman asked me out on a date, I'd like that, even if I wasn't immediately attracted to her. Why? Because, one, I would find her honesty and forthrightness endearing and, two, I think it's pretty flattering to show romantic interest in another, something I've done hundreds of times in my life. It's a compliment. Perhaps that perspective is borne of receiving few such compliments in life, but there ya go. Good luck. 1
soccerrprp Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I can't speak for all guys, but I love it!
crederer Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Yah, why not? Who wouldn't like that, it's very flattering.
gaius Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 It's nice as an impressive story to tell your friends or women you are interested in, but it's feels horrible being put in the position of rejecting someone that is flattering you and has done nothing wrong. 1
crysis43 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 a major contributor to male insecurity in a relationship is not knowing if the girl likes him or not. it is very, very difficult to read ladyfeelings. asking him out immediately sets the bar at "above zero" and is an enormous boost of confidence and one hell of a turn-on, especially if the guy doesn't think he's much of a looker (you can tell these by the way they dress, usually, or their demeanor). i can't honestly think of a situation in which a girl asked a guy out and the guy wasn't thrilled about it, even if he did say no. go for it. 1
Blastoplast Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Yes, it's flattering to me, personally.
Rugger1869 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I sure do... but, then I really appreciate assertive and decisive women.
MalachiX Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Yeah, it's great. We're usually expected to do all the courting and sometimes it's not clear if we're doing this for someone who doesn't even really like us. It's nice to know that we're going out with someone who is genuinely interested.
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