Esp0125 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Hello Everyone, Could use some advice from anyone on this one. I am rather new to the forum board and I wanted to tell everyone about my situation. I am 34 My girlfriend is 31. I met her about 6 months ago and ever since our 6 hour first date we have had the absolute greatest connection. Here is where I want to see if I am reading things correctly. She lost her mother suddenly and unexpectedly 11 months ago, that will make sense from what I am saying later. We talk about everything we have talked about the future together and she says she looks forward to "OUR" future together but its hard for her to think about without her mother there. Which I fully understand and am in no way upset about that. She has always told me before she lost her mom she wanted to get married and have a family but she says now seeing that everything can all be taken away in the blink of an eye it scares her. She has told me and a few of her friends that I am the "one" I feel the same way about her, she told her father (who I have a very good relationship with) "get used to Him because he will prob be your son in law one day" Ok which brings me to current week... She was having a rough week because next month is the 1 year of her mothers death so I am going to be making sure I am her rock and will be there for her whatever she needs. She texts me the the other day saying that her dad was telling her where he thinks we should get married and that he feels there will be an announcement by me in the near future hahah she was giggling so I knew that made her happy. She told me she told him she wasn't in a rush, not because she doesn't love me but because it was very hard for her to be able to think about that day and not have her mom be there. We are together this weekend and she was telling me how she told her friends, these are ones that I know well what her father said and they were talking about it in detail. Ok here is my question... For a woman who has a rough time talking about the future because her mother isn't there from what I said does this forum think that she deep down still does want the same thing that she wanted before her mother passed? I mean i know she says its hard to think about, she must be because why tell her dad, and her friends they talked about us getting married right? I really appreciate any questions, comments or advice ps I am not going to propose to her tomorrow or anything but I did start pricing out some stuff just to get an idea. Thank you all in advance.
deathandtaxes Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Sounds like you need to talk to your girlfriend about your future together. Let her mourn. Talk to her afterwards.
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