Found out gf's past and need to vent

[MrCastle]

Lots of people out there whether they want to admit it or not have a problem with white women having sex with black men. A lot of self righteous politically correct people here throwing around the bigot and racist card. If it bothers you than it is a problem. Some people just want to hold hands with everyone and sing kumbayah. Don't listen to the holier than thous here. If it bothers you dump her. They want you to stay with her because they are politically correct and afraid to speak up. Just following the multicultural train even though I'm sure many of them won't live in many of the ethnic enclaves and are secretly as racist as the ones they accuse of. Brainwashed by government ideology which is failing by the way. Just ask the people in Great Britain, London in particular and the Sharia no go zones. It would bother me too. Also some of the women here calling you a bigot and racist might very well be guilty of doing the same thing. Once again the past is past philosophy fails.

 

Believe it or not, the majority of people live in 2013 and have no hangups whatsoever about interracial relations.

 

Your guilt and insecurity about your own dated views on relationships forced you to come in here and post because you felt we were calling you a racist specifically, most likely because your views align with OP.

 

Your rather lengthy post could be summed up in one sentence: "Yeah I'm racist but so are a lot of other people!"

 

In any event, it is a misguided view.

[Carenth]

I think you will find most of the people have told him to dump his girlfriend if he can't get past it. It doesn't change the fact that it is racist.

 

I have never had an issue with the race of my current/former partners, it shouldn't be an issue but if it is then dump her simple. Let her find someone who won't judge her for her past. Just because lots of other people are racist does not make racism ok in this day and age it is a dated view going to way of the dinosaurs.

[Misfortune]

I believe some people think that OP is only being called racist because it's white on black thing. It would be racist to me no matter the race. Everyone knows that there's more racism besides white/black and vice versa.

 

Either way, this thread is pretty much done. OP is with his lady and is dealing with his issues. The "racists" and "non racists" have fought their battles and it seems opposing views will have to agree to disagree.

[MrCastle]

I think you will find most of the people have told him to dump his girlfriend if he can't get past it. It doesn't change the fact that it is racist.

 

I have never had an issue with the race of my current/former partners, it shouldn't be an issue but if it is then dump her simple. Let her find someone who won't judge her for her past. Just because lots of other people are racist does not make racism ok in this day and age it is a dated view going to way of the dinosaurs.

 

The opposing argument seems to be

 

"Hey a lot of us have issues with our own race dating others. We're not racists, we're just honest enough to admit it. Tons of us feel this way, they're just to scared to say it!"

 

And actually, no, that's not what it is. What it is, is a growing number of tolerant people, and a dwindling number of bigots. That's what it is.

 

The people with the dated, antiquated views on dating would like to think a lot more people are like them, just scared to admit it, but in reality, they are the minority when it comes to their views and as such, are becoming increasingly insecure and defensive of their views.

 

If you have a problem with black people, or white people, or homosexuals, or whatever, just admit it and own up to it. Don't try to use flawed circular logic as a means to defend your stance. Just say you're uncomfortable with (blank) people and own your bigotry.

 

Don't say "yeah I'm uncomfortable with another race but that doesn't make me racist." Or, "yeah I'm uncomfortable with another race but so are a lot of other people so that makes it okay," or whatever else they're using.

 

Say you have an issue, and move on. Don't try to say something abhorrently bigoted and then try to make it seem like it's not racist.

[Geiss]

Believe it or not, the majority of people live in 2013 and have no hangups whatsoever about interracial relations.

 

Your guilt and insecurity about your own dated views on relationships forced you to come in here and post because you felt we were calling you a racist specifically, most likely because your views align with OP.

 

Your rather lengthy post could be summed up in one sentence: "Yeah I'm racist but so are a lot of other people!"

 

In any event, it is a misguided view.

 

I'm from 2013 as well and from my experience many people do have a problem with interracial relationships. But especially when it comes to black men dating white women. The year is irrelevant. I know you are a kumbayah person and are afraid to stir the politically correct melting pot but so are many others and I'm not afraid to say I don't like it. I'm sure racist and bigot and ignorant are all on the tip of your tongue ready to be flung out at anyone that opposes your political correctness. It will take the **** to hit the fan before many people realize maybe this wasn't such a good idea after all.

[ScreamingTrees]

Having traveled all around the USA for 20+ years...

 

NYC, Miami, SF, LA, CHI, etc... It's very diverse and multicultural population full of various ethnicities in large numbers. Interracial / multicultural dating is common place.

 

However, that isn't the case in the rest of the USA just due to the fact you don't have a large number of African Americans, Pakastanies or Brazilians living in say... Denver, Montana, Utah, New Mexico, etc.

 

There are parts of the country where interracial dating is rare just due to lack of options / opportunity / numbers involved. There are also parts of the country if you look at the interracial couples... 6 out of 10 are Jerry Springer World. The white women who happened to look / talk / dress / behave / conduct themselves like a crack whore were with a Black guy who happened to look / talk / dress / behave / conduct themselves like a thug.

 

If I was dating in certain parts of the country, the fact my GF dated a guy who was black wouldn't phase me. In other parts of the country, I would want to know more about her, him and their relationship.

 

I assumed that OP's problem was with her sleeping around with a lot of dudes, but, whatever, I guess he's just got his issues..

 

Just my perception, I don't think that hispanic or black women care much for white men. Maybe statistics paint a different story, but I don't see it with my own eyes where I live.

[MrCastle]

I'm from 2013 as well and from my experience many people do have a problem with interracial relationships. But especially when it comes to black men dating white women. The year is irrelevant. I know you are a kumbayah person and are afraid to stir the politically correct melting pot but so are many others and I'm not afraid to say I don't like it. I'm sure racist and bigot and ignorant are all on the tip of your tongue ready to be flung out at anyone that opposes your political correctness. It will take the **** to hit the fan before many people realize maybe this wasn't such a good idea after all.

 

I know how repulsive the idea of me accepting everyone regardless of ethnicity, gender, age, culture, and sexual orientation must be to you but contrary to what you believe, I am not "afraid to stir the politically correct melting pot"

 

I embrace human beings of all kinds and view them all as equals. Not because I'm a some closeted bigot pussy who wants to speak up but is afraid to, so I just go with the crowd, but rather because I feel the only way to live in this world is to accept everyone for who they are.

[MrCastle]

I assumed that OP's problem was with her sleeping around with a lot of dudes, but, whatever, I guess he's just got his issues..

 

Just my perception, I don't think that hispanic or black women care much for white men. Maybe statistics paint a different story, but I don't see it with my own eyes where I live.

 

Not to take this off topic but where I live, hispanic women almost date exclusively white men. This is also true when it comes to OLD. Both white men and women are the most messaged people on the site. From all ethnicities, not just their own.

 

More ethnicities message and respond to messages from white people than they do their own.

 

Just sayin.

[Carenth]

Not a good idea mixing races? What is going to happen that will make the sky fall? Jesus I didn't realise I'm committing a mortal sin dating someone with a different skin tone to my own.

 

If your only argument is the circular logic that other people are racist so there for it is ok you are really grasping at straws.

 

Other people commit murder? So murder is ok then?

 

You will find the times are changing especially in the younger generations that we simply don't give a **** about the race of our friends and lovers. We don't care about the sexuality of others either. We accept them for who they are, they are people. Because honestly it's a bloody stupid thing to judge someone on.

[MrCastle]

Not a good idea mixing races? What is going to happen that will make the sky fall? Jesus I didn't realise I'm committing a mortal sin dating someone with a different skin tone to my own.

 

If your only argument is the circular logic that other people are racist so there for it is ok you are really grasping at straws.

 

Other people commit murder? So murder is ok then?

 

You will find the times are changing especially in the younger generations that we simply don't give a **** about the race of our friends and lovers. We don't care about the sexuality of others either. We accept them for who they are, they are people. Because honestly it's a bloody stupid thing to judge someone on.

 

At this point both of us are just recycling posts. There is not much more to say here. You can't unbigot a bigot. All you can do is take solace in the fact that the number of people with bigoted views continues to shrink with each passing year.

[Misfortune]

This goes beyond same race/interracial relations IMO. It's on a level that is quite ridiculous to me. OP has his same race relationship and is upset that his gf had an interracial fling before meeting him and without knowing about his "preference". He somehow feels that she's done him wrong by not living her life the way he would his. I would guess that he doesn't trust her around his black friends. Was she suppose live her life saying: I better not date a black man if I ever want to be with a white man?

 

He has what he wants (WGuy/WGirl) and he's reaching for something ridiculous.

[Geiss]

I know how repulsive the idea of me accepting everyone regardless of ethnicity, gender, age, culture, and sexual orientation must be to you but contrary to what you believe, I am not "afraid to stir the politically correct melting pot"

 

I embrace human beings of all kinds and view them all as equals. Not because I'm a some closeted bigot pussy who wants to speak up but is afraid to, so I just go with the crowd, but rather because I feel the only way to live in this world is to accept everyone for who they are.

 

Then if you are not afraid of stirring the politically correct melting pot what politically incorrect views do you have?

 

I saw all your posts and your holier than thou attitude and how much better you think of yourself as all the political correct do gooders do and slam people with opposing views with non arguments but just buzz words like racist and bigot that force most people to go on the defensive.

 

I don't agree with multiculturalism or interracial dating. But these days you are not allowed to be opposed to it. But many people are. Just ask the 600000 white people that left London England for the burbs because of the influx of Muslims and the new no go zones for white people. That's a lot of racists and bigots. So would you stay in London if all the white people moved out to prove how tolerant and accepting you are?

[Carenth]

STOP THE PRESS MUST PROTECT THE WHITE PURITY. Are you honestly suggesting that those 60k people left just because they hate muslims? This is not an uncommon occurrence just to point out to you. You will find out that in many traditionally white countries the city centers ethnic makeup is becoming very diverse. This is a bad thing why? I live in such a city and it's not bad at all.

 

Just so you know I'm white.

[Bubberfly]

This goes beyond same race/interracial relations IMO. It's on a level that is quite ridiculous to me. OP has his same race relationship and is upset that his gf had an interracial fling before meeting him and without knowing about his "preference". He somehow feels that she's done him wrong by not living her life the way he would his. I would guess that he doesn't trust her around his black friends. Was she suppose live her life saying: I better not date a black man if I ever want to be with a white man?

 

He has what he wants (WGuy/WGirl) and he's reaching for something ridiculous.

 

 

Psh. Like he has black friends.

Any black people hanging around him would do so just to laugh at his flippant bigotry.

Hopefully this girl he's dating will see how ridiculous he is, and let him date a girl who has his same racial preferences.

[Geiss]

STOP THE PRESS MUST PROTECT THE WHITE PURITY. Are you honestly suggesting that those 60k people left just because they hate muslims? This is not an uncommon occurrence just to point out to you. You will find out that in many traditionally white countries the city centers ethnic makeup is becoming very diverse. This is a bad thing why? I live in such a city and it's not bad at all.

 

Just so you know I'm white.

 

Not 60k. 600,000. And yes they do hate Muslims. That's why they left. It was hard for them to see their neighborhoods transformed from what it was to an all muslim neighborhood. Plus all the violence and hatred. Can't even walk down one of their streets without the threat of getting attacked. Or raped if you are a woman. Or killed if you are gay. But at least we have people that accept everyone no matter what. Even if the groups we accept hate each other. Someone better forward them the multicultural memo and tell them they have to accept them as well despite any religious objections or conflicts.

[MrCastle]

Then if you are not afraid of stirring the politically correct melting pot what politically incorrect views do you have?[/Quote]

 

Oh stick around here long enough and you will see me get into it with quite a few members who don't share the same look on sex and dating that I have.

 

I saw all your posts and your holier than thou attitude and how much better you think of yourself as all the political correct do gooders do and slam people with opposing views with non arguments but just buzz words like racist and bigot that force most people to go on the defensive.[/Quote]

 

Sorry for my "buzz words," I don't know what else to call someone who has problems with other ethnicities outside of "bigot" and "racist" -- because by definition that is what they are. How does "antiquated interracial relationships belief holder" sound?

 

I don't agree with multiculturalism or interracial dating. But these days you are not allowed to be opposed to it.[/Quote]

 

Sucks. Remember the good old days where beliefs on racial separation were socially accepted? I long for those days.

 

But many people are.[/Quote]

 

If many people are, then my opinion would be the minority, and not yours.

 

Just ask the 600000 white people that left London England for the burbs because of the influx of Muslims and the new no go zones for white people. That's a lot of racists and bigots. So would you stay in London if all the white people moved out to prove how tolerant and accepting you are?

 

I live in New York, the cultural melting pot of the world. I want to live in an area where many different cultures, ethnicities, and lifestyles live. Wherever that may be.

[Geiss]

STOP THE PRESS MUST PROTECT THE WHITE PURITY. Are you honestly suggesting that those 60k people left just because they hate muslims? This is not an uncommon occurrence just to point out to you. You will find out that in many traditionally white countries the city centers ethnic makeup is becoming very diverse. This is a bad thing why? I live in such a city and it's not bad at all.

 

Just so you know I'm white.

 

The question is how long will you stay in your diverse city when it becomes less diverse as minorities become the majority?

[TheGuard13]

This may be a silly question...

 

But in all of this, has anyone asked WHY he has an issue with her sleeping with a black man?

[AHaze]

He doesn't like the fact that his girlfriend slept with a black guy... big F'ing deal...

 

It's not the end of the world... he has an issue with black guys, I have an issue with people who go to the end of the world to expose the racist flaws in people... same principle.

 

I'm sure the black guy isn't losing any sleep over it.

 

I see plenty of black guys with issues towards white people... but never see anybody screaming and shouting about how much of a terrible racist they are for it.

 

Ya know what's worse than a racist?.. people who sit and wait for an excuse to accuse somebody of being racist, and then make a meal of it when the opportunity finally arises.

[Carenth]

Hrmm well considering it's been like this oh I dunno my whole life then it's 26 years thus far. I haven't run into these roaming death gangs of angry non whites you talk about though. My sister and mother or cousins haven't been raped on the street. Or anyone I know in fact. I'm surprised anyone is alive in London after the war zone you described.

[Carenth]

This may be a silly question...

 

But in all of this, has anyone asked WHY he has an issue with her sleeping with a black man?

 

First thing I asked.

[Misfortune]

This may be a silly question...

 

But in all of this, has anyone asked WHY he has an issue with her sleeping with a black man?

 

His "issue"-_-: His gf's father dislikes her being with black guys and he feels that she is settling for him, a white guy.

[AHaze]

Hrmm well considering it's been like this oh I dunno my whole life then it's 26 years thus far. I haven't run into these roaming death gangs of angry non whites you talk about though. My sister and mother or cousins haven't been raped on the street. Or anyone I know in fact. I'm surprised anyone is alive in London after the war zone you described.

 

WHAT on earth are you talking about?

[MrCastle]

He doesn't like the fact that his girlfriend slept with a black guy... big F'ing deal...

 

It's not the end of the world... he has an issue with black guys, I have an issue with people who go to the end of the world to expose the racist flaws in people... same principle.

 

I'm sure the black guy isn't losing any sleep over it.

 

I see plenty of black guys with issues towards white people... but never see anybody screaming and shouting about how much of a terrible racist they are for it.

 

Ya know what's worse than a racist?.. people who sit and wait for an excuse to accuse somebody of being racist, and then make a meal of it when the opportunity finally arises.

 

Yeah. People that expect others to have open minded views when it comes to accepting different people is a lot worse than being racist. Good point.

 

Shame on those accusing OP of having dated views on interracial couplings, they are the real enemies here.

[Carenth]

Not 60k. 600,000. And yes they do hate Muslims. That's why they left. It was hard for them to see their neighborhoods transformed from what it was to an all muslim neighborhood. Plus all the violence and hatred. Can't even walk down one of their streets without the threat of getting attacked. Or raped if you are a woman. Or killed if you are gay. But at least we have people that accept everyone no matter what. Even if the groups we accept hate each other. Someone better forward them the multicultural memo and tell them they have to accept them as well despite any religious objections or conflicts.

 

I'm talking about this.